One of the Vibra 104.9 FM announcers, Karen Vinasco, in the company of Toño Rodríguez, demystifies romantic love and tries to understand Why do we fall in love with someone who doesn’t love us back? or from whom we should not.
Why do we fall in love with someone who does not belong to us or with whom we should not?
Be careful, that a person is with you does not necessarily mean that he corresponds to you, that is, that he satisfies you emotionally, and the problem is not in him (or her), but in the misconception we have about loveas an idealized feeling.
According to the psychotherapist André Didyme-Dome, romantic love is the product of the expectation that a close human being will offer us satisfaction and existential happiness. It should not be confused with idealization, where the expectation is part of an idea that one has about the person without really knowing them. True love is built on the reality principle, when we take the time to know and understand the person and accept both their qualities and their defects.
That is why Karencita relied on the famous philosopher Alain de Botton to demystify romantic love in his Mental Revolution, as this Swiss writer explains that the cause of suffering for love, in most people, comes from those ideas about love that come from romanticism, such as:
- Which is for life.
- Or that they have to love you with the same intensity that you love.
- That soul mates exist, etc.
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