There are people who cannot help but continually please others. submissive people They even go so far as to give up everything they want to satisfy the needs of others.
The fact of presenting this psychological trait can bring problems on a personal and professional level. In fact, these types of people may give the impression that they lack personality or that they are strongly dependent on others.
What are submissive people?
A person who has a submissive attitude is someone who decides submit to the authority of others voluntarily. That is, if someone with a submissive personality meets someone with a dominant personality, the submissive person will end up receive and accept orders of this one.
Such is their commitment that the submissive man or woman can put aside everything they want for please others. Therefore, being submissive can end up causing a certain subject to be governed or manipulated by another.
From a psychological point of view, a submissive personality is characterized by a set of psychological predispositions. These lead those who develop them to assume a subordinate roleIt is someone else who gives them orders and tells them what they should or should not do.
It should also be noted that having a submissive personality type does not necessarily mean being incompatible with being dominant with certain people or in certain contexts. However, such situations in which the person takes on the dominant role instead of the submissive one are very rare.
Just because someone has a submissive personality type doesn't mean that that trait defines them one hundred percent. Not all of their personality has to be submissive.
It may be the case that this aspect hardly stands out among the traits that define it. We must also take into account that the Personality is flexible and changeable. Although if we compare it with other aspects or psychological sets, it is quite stable as the years go by.
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What characteristics do submissive people have?
There are a series of behaviors that help us define a submissive person. According to mental health professionals, the following can be highlighted: characteristics:
- Low self-esteem. Typically, people who have a submissive attitude tend to have low self-esteem. This is because They have no confidence and security in themselves. Lack of self-confidence generates a series of doubts and fears in relation to any responsibility or activity that we have to do. That is why it is often said that submissive people have no personality.
- Traumatic experiences. This happens when bad experiences are suffered in childhood. For example, if a child suffers physical or sexual abuse, excessive control or humiliation. These people may end up becoming submissive adults. In trying to forget or avoid these bad experiences, children seek to satisfy the needs of their abusers. These may be their parents, teachers or classmates.
- Lack of assertiveness. The main characteristic of submission is the lack of voice before others. Submissive people make themselves small in relation to others. They end up stopping saying what they really think or think so as not to bother those around them. They end up opting for repress their opinions and desires to avoid coming into conflict with their abusers.
- They avoid conflicts. Another of the characteristics that define a submissive person is that of escape from conflictsThey prefer not to argue with others. This is because they feel that their opinion is useless. That it is not valid enough for others to listen to it and take it into account. For this reason, these people end up repressing many of their emotions.
- Emotional dependence. Individuals who have a submissive personality have a certain tendency to look for people who dominate them. In this way, they give them the responsibility of deciding for them. In many cases, the submissive man or woman ends up behaving with a great emotional dependence on loved ones or friends who have more temper or character.
- They are shy and introverted. When a person tends to keep their desires and needs, as well as their feelings and emotions, they usually end up developing an introverted personality. They often choose to be alone. This way they avoid getting into conflicts with others or having to show their desires in social relationships.
- They seek to please others. The main goal of a submissive person is please others at all costs. As for their own position or opinion, they leave it aside and find it difficult to defend it. However, they will do anything for others.
- They are negative. The fact of not defending their own opinions or positions regarding anything or matter causes them not to achieve the objectives or goals they set for themselves in their lives. This results in their reality being seen from a filter full of negativity and pessimistic thoughts.
- They create a bad impression. Normally submissive people have humble behaviors. However, this type of personality based on constantly pleasing others can generate negative feelings. Other people may have a bad impression of them. The reason for this is that people look for people with self-confidence in order to be able to have confidence in others.
- They are insecure. As already mentioned, submissive people do not want to face responsibility for their actions. A submissive man or woman ends up being a victim of themselves and their own insecuritiesAs a consequence, they will have many limitations on a vital and personal level.
How can I stop being a submissive person?
There are a number of tips that can help you stop being submissive and what this entails:
- Use your voice. Don't silence yourself in front of others. Your voice is an essential tool to show people that you do have personality and that you are not submissive. Learn to speak with confidence, with a tone and volume that show people that what you say matters.
- Self-confidence. You have to work on your self-confidence. To leave submission behind you have to learn to trust yourself and your abilities. One way to work on it is to have more responsibilities in your life. Decide things for yourself, regardless of what others say. This way you will see that your decisions are correct and you have had good results without the need for others to intervene.
- Talk more. One of the characteristics of the submissive is to speak less in front of others for fear of what they will say. Forget about the fears that prevent you from doing so. Speak and give opinions to other people. You can start by starting conversations in places like shops or bars, by bringing up conversations with people you don't know. This way, it will be easier for you to do it in front of family or friends without fearing the outcome.
- Practice positivism. Put aside negative thoughts that only limit you. Think and reason logically if what you think really makes sense or is useful to you.
- Avoid toxic people. Stay away from anyone who drains your energy. Manipulative people who take advantage of your vulnerability to get their own benefits.
How can I get out of submission?
He psychological treatment It is the best resource to stop being a submissive person.
A mental health professional will help you achieve many changes on a personal level. Changes that will help you relieve your discomfort and suffering and will make you enjoy your life with confidence. In addition, it will give you tools to be able to satisfy your own desires and needs without feeling guilty about it.
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