We ignore the warnings, that’s why we «die in war»

They say that «a warned soldier does not die in war»… But in matters of love, we ignore the warnings.

«That man is dog, lazy and bad class, don’t mess with him” (but we fall). “Don’t continue with him, he will never leave his wife” (however, we continue). «That guy mistreated me, it doesn’t suit you» (unbelievably we mess with him). What happens to us women who always choose the wrong man? Why is it so hard for us to find the right man?

It seems that for many of us the saying «warned soldier does not die in war» does not apply. No matter how many times we are warned, or how many people warn ussome of us respond to the Mojito Lite: «I take care of myself»… If you don’t remember the lyrics of this song, listen to it…

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Is the situation familiar to you? If so, you are not alone, don’t worry, it happens to many women that we choose the wrong man over and over again, but why? According to psychologist André Didyme-Dome, in most cases what happens is that, unconsciously, we are repeating the pattern of an abusive or unfaithful father or male figure.

Although they are aware of the damage their mothers have received from this type of man, they look for a similar one André Didyme-Dome, psychologist

The expert warns that the main difficulty for women who did not heed the warnings is that they believe that abuse, infidelity and lack of respect are part of a love relationshipthat is to say, that love is like that and that it includes suffering.

The specialist advises, to avoid falling into or continuing in destructive relationships like these, pay attention to warnings, not only those of other people, but those dictated by your own conscience. ask yourself:

  • Does this relationship bring me happiness or am I crying all the time?
  • Do I trust him or am I always thinking who he is with?
  • Is our relationship based on respect or do we spend time fighting?
  • Does this person bring me peace or do I feel a weight in my heart every time we are together?

Remember that the things of love are not easy, so if you feel that you are stuck in eternal suffering, do not hesitate to seek therapeutic help for you and your partner. Do you find this note useful? Share it on your social networks, it can also be useful for some of your contacts.