Often, when we think of people with charisma we tend to think of them with admiration. We all want to be more charismaticThis is because behind the person who has charisma there is also a certain ability to attract others. Being charismatic is a great virtue that basically consists of having the necessary attitudes to relate successfully with other people.
What is charisma?
The term charisma has its origins in the Greek “charis”. For the Greeks, charisma was a gift that the gods gave to some people. This gift, Charisma gave people grace and charm.
Charisma is a natural quality that certain people possess. It is the capacity of attract other people With just his presence, his attitudes and behaviors or their words. Therefore, it can be understood as a gift that one is born with. This gift makes the person who has it stand out from the crowd and make a good impression wherever they go.
When we meet a charismatic person we feel admiration towards them and the desire to spend time with them. And, although it is true that there are people who are born with charisma, it can also be trained.
According to the sociologist Max Webercharisma allows one to exercise a form of power. Citizens are guided by a charismatic personality and are led by him. Charisma is often associated with political leaders since it is the reason why they manage to win over the population and get large masses of people to follow them and their ideas.
However, it is necessary that we know how to differentiate charisma from handling. These two terms are often confused and it is thought that attracting people through blackmail or manipulation is being charismatic. This is not the case; manipulation is done with the aim of obtaining benefits by taking advantage of the vulnerability of others.
A manipulative person will never generate positive links with others because they are afraid and respectful of these people. They are people who end up staying alonethe complete opposite of someone charismatic.
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What are charismatic people like?
Charismatic people are constructive and often show themselves calm. They are subjects respectful They show sincere and honest interest in others. This makes other people see them as good and nice people.
That balance and tranquility They express this because they themselves have managed to achieve a balance between their needs and respect for others.
This allows them to be in different comfortable environments and have no problem starting a conversation. They do not pose a threat to others, so they are not afraid of being judged. In fact, they show enormous confidence in their abilities and skills to reach agreements and achieve peace. This is part of their success.
Charismatic people tend to be generally leaders by nature. Throughout their lives they have acquired a series of communication skills and strengths that allow them to build positive bonds and relationships.
Their relationships with others are based on respect, both for themselves and for others. Their charismatic personality allows them to show themselves as people congruent and reasonablewith a high sense of justice.
They are always thinking about him change and in the transformation through the qualities of the team. In addition to seeking solutions when they see that there is a problem or some difficulty that endangers the integrity of their group.
Charisma, as we have already mentioned above, can also be train. After all, being charismatic depends on a series of behaviors and attitudes that You choose. Therefore, being more or less charismatic depends on you.
How can you be more charismatic?
There are a number of keys that can help you enhance your charisma:
- Identify your emotions. Learn to identify your emotions It is essential to be able to communicate with others in an appropriate way and to be able to reach an agreement. The charismatic person has a great capacity for regulate your emotions in a very effective way. He knows how to identify and manage his emotions perfectly.
- Assertive communication. Learn assertiveness. To express emotions, opinions or justify your words without offending you have to learn. correct dialogue and respect is essential to be able to reach agreements and strengthen bonds of trust.
- Be kind to others. Treating others well is essential, not only if you want to be charismatic, but also as a rule of life. You have to show a sincere interest for the concerns of others and being kind. This greatly strengthens your bonds with other people.
- Motivate those around you. Support the people around you and trust them and their decisions. Make them feel that they really are important and valuableWhen someone around you tells them about an achievement, show them that they really deserve it and that you are proud of them.
- Learn from difficulties. When difficult or adverse moments occur, try to get out of them by being reasonable and constructive. Find a range of solutions and help others. Send positive messages that encourage connection within the group to avoid creating bad feelings.
- Do not criticize or speak badly of others. You can always show your opinion towards a person or you can express what you feel. However, always do it from respect. Do not judge or criticize someone, whether you know them or not, as this is an act that generates distrust.
- Practice empathy. Putting yourself in someone else's shoes It is essential for your charisma to increase. When a person feels understood, they place their trust in the other.
- Don't complain all the time. A person complaining all the time about something or someone is very toxic. This can generate a feeling or problem in your environment. negative energiesYou can always express what you feel, but don't position yourself as a victim all the time.
- Practice body languageTo be charismatic you have to learn to smile. A serious person conveys negativity or distrust at first glance. Be kind through your gestures and body language, and those around you will feel comfortable and welcomed.
What if I don't have any of these skills and can't get them on my own?
If you are in this situation and you think you cannot handle it alone, you can always ask for help. Go to a professional psychologist that provides you with the necessary tools to gradually develop these skills.
In Psychia We are experts in online therapy. Our professionals can offer you the help you need. You will be able to learn the guidelines to improve your communication skills and you will end up becoming more charismatic.