A common cause of couple breakups It is a consequence of a lack of trust in the otherBut is it possible to regain lost trust? This may depend on the willingness of both parties to work for the good of the relationship. There should be no pain in the process But once your relationship is back on track, your relationship can be stronger.
Things you can do to regain lost trust
- Don't ask your partner to trust you. Especially if you hurt him deeply, causing him to distrust you. There must be congruence between your words and actions.
- Don't lie. It will only serve to end up breaking the relationship. The best thing you can do is talk sincerely, even if it is not your fault. couple doesn't like it But sometimes it is necessary to do so in order to rebuild trust.
- Don't have secretsWhen you are in a relationship you can't hide things because it kills trust and therefore the relationship.
- Your partner has to feel safe with you. Show yourself as you are. This creates confidence in knowing your reactions and avoiding creating false expectations.
- If you don't know something, ask him.. And especially if you don't know how to handle the situation. Never assume that you know how your partner feels. Instead, listen carefully and ask questions if necessary.
- Give it timeIf the situation is the result of infidelity or very poor communication, a short separation could be a good idea to overcome the crisis and alleviate the pain caused.
- Don't let yourself be carried away by angerIt is logical that you feel bad about reality and that negative emotions such as anger or sadness arise, but this is the reason why you should distance yourself, get to the bottom of the problem and assess the severity of the consequences.
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- Don't expect too much from your partner. We all have a lot of defects and virtues, a character marked by our life experiences as well as our upbringing. For all these reasons, do not try to change the other person and maintain appropriate expectations.
- Your partner makes mistakes, admit it. Many can be forgiven, if they put in the effort. Also think about the reasons that led to the situation you are in. Think about whether you make mistakes. We are all human. If we think that we would “never do it,” we should keep in mind that life has a very clever way of proving us wrong.
- End the relationship with the third person clearly and openly, If this is the cause of the mistrust, this person is a very important part of your relationship problem. Also, remember that cheating is totally a choice and it is you who must assume your mistake by answering all your partner's questions. Remember that it is extremely difficult for the cheated person to know that, somewhere, there is another man or woman who knows about their relationship at least as much as they do.
- Stay by your partner's side. Because she needs to work things out with you, so you have to be emotionally available. And being physically present can help a lot because it will counteract the feelings that you don't value her, that you make her feel number one, that you give her attention, and that you make her feel safe, that you won't cheat on her again.
- Be patient. The person who was cheated on will be really hurt, so if you run after him, the only thing you'll achieve is to make things worse. So be patient… it's the only way to regain trust.
- Comprehension. You must empathize with your partner to cope with the situation.
- Be consistent. Try to do everything possible to rectify the situation, without hesitation and in a consistent manner, and remember that you have to start from scratch to regain lost confidence.
Rebuilding trust in a relationship can take a long time and It will take a great effort on the part of both to try to maintain assertive communication, the only way to ensure that the “legs” of your relationship do not break, definitively.
Distrust is one of the main reasons why people go to couples therapysince it is one of the most common after poor or no communication, and, in some cases, it causes the breakup of the couple, because the common life project is broken, and nothing is ever the same again.
Regaining trust is a difficult process that, with persistence and affection, can yield good results. However, it is essential that if you do not see yourself capable of moving forward alone, ask a couples therapist for help that will guide you – in an objective way – to the exit of your emotional labyrinth.
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