Before you mess with a guy who just got out of a relationship, know the psychology of the newly separated man. You should.
Are you falling for a guy who has just ended a love relationship and you have doubts about whether or not you should mess with him? You do well to think about that, because he is going through a very difficult duel.
How is the psychology of the newly separated man?
After ending a relationship, all people go through the same 5 stages of any duel:
- Denial
- Gonna
- Negotiation
- Depression
- Acceptance
If the man you are going to date is still in one of the 4 stages prior to acceptance, your heart may come out of this relationship very badly, because you will not be his priority.
5 Reasons Not to Date a Divorced or Newly Separated
Confusion
Many of them are hurt and confused, so they don’t really know what they want, even if they say otherwise. Observe their behavior and analyze their words.
Money
You will usually have financial problems, since a divorce is expensive, and if you have children, your belt will be much tighter. If money doesn’t matter to you, good for you!
Jealousy
The ghost of your ex will be very present, it is even probable that he will talk too much about her (and with her). If you are a possessive person, jealousy can cause many problems in the relationship.
Commitment
Maybe you are not ready to rebuild your life and try to run away from the commitment. If you want something serious, this point can be a great impediment for the relationship to evolve.
Spite
He may not really be interested in you, but is only with you because he believes that «a nail pulls out another nail»; Although couples therapists advise against using another person to get over someone, many men do.
Nevertheless, dating someone recently divorced could be beneficial, but for him! A study from the University of Illinois found that starting a relationship right after the previous one ended improves self-esteem and helps to forget the ex-partner.
What do you think? Have you had such an experience? Tell us your story in the comments of this note, and share it on your networks!
With information from: Psychology Today