Talk about adolescence is to talk about fears and conflicts for many parents. Of uncertainty and unforeseen changes. A time that gives rise to many conversations, books and studies and, among so much information, we find Fernando Alberca, considered one of the world's leading experts in education. The author of the bestseller “Every child can be Einstein” He considers adolescence to be an exciting stage and unravels all its mysteries in his work “Teenagers: Instruction Manual”.
Alberca's work breaks with old patterns and reveals adolescence as a magical moment in which communication between parents and children changes and children become adults and all their talents develop.
For Alberca, it is “a time when motivation is key.” In fact, Fernando Alberca does not consider adolescence as a stage, but rather life that changes and the same child who seemed so good, affectionate, handsome, etc., is within that process of becoming an adolescent that tends to become an adult. At this time, the one we considered a child “needs to hide that dependency he had, give meaning to his own existence, show that he is a different person from his parents.”
In this process, differences arise. And, above all, the language and the way of communicating change. It even seems that the teenager no longer wants to pay attention. As parents, we must know that Our children listen, they know that what we tell them is the most appropriate, they know that the most important things in their lives are learned from their parents. But they need proof that they are different, that they are no longer so dependent and that they are more autonomous.
Emotions are running high. And the teenager is thinking about his future. “We have to make an inverted revolution. We have to rationalize our emotions and emote our reason.”
The importance of maintaining communication between parents and children
“Teenagers: Instruction Manual» it's a book that eliminates old schemes and gets to the bottom of each child's problems in a practical way, with affection, accuracy and understanding, answering questions such as: What does the teenager think and feel? Why does he or she behave in certain ways and how should parents react to them? How can a child's self-esteem be nurtured? How can their gestures and words be interpreted? How can they be made to understand that their parents are on the same team as them, even when they are correcting them?
“Adolescence is a fruitful stage, where the language is completely different«Mothers and fathers have to learn to understand their children and to translate this new language. They have to be given the security they need and let them contradict us. They have to learn their new language and help them to walk and grow independently.
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