What you may consider a harmless habit or distraction could be turning into a pathology. According to various experts in psychology, the habit of stalk (verb borrowed from English «stalk«, which we can translate as «stalking») can start as something fun and end as a compulsive disorder. According to Fabio Lacollapsychologist specializing in interpersonal relationships, a stalker is «a person whose life was lost and wants to find it in the lives of others.»
Living aware of what others do or say on social networks is a characteristic of our time and we all do it to a greater or lesser extent; however, it is very easy for an innocent curiosity to become a fixation and even a disease. The stalkers they cannot, even if they want to, stop «watching» a particular person, It doesn’t matter if it’s because they have a «crush» on her or because they don’t like her very much.. In the end, both respond to the same thing, a passion to which they are hooked and with which they replace an emotional void in their real life.
An obsession is a recurring behavior that does not bring us any satisfaction; on the contrary, the more we do it, the more anxious we feel. When we are obsessed with a person, or rather, with a person’s profile on social networks (which is nothing more than what that person chooses to show of themselves), we live in expectation of their posts. That is, the other person lives for her and we live to see her live and, worst of all, our state of mind changes depending on what that person says or does. In the long run this only generates frustration and discomfort, ceasing to be a harmless habit to become a disorder.
If you think you spend too much time stalking to a person it is very likely that, beyond the reasons you think you have for doing it, it is an evasion. Think about what problems you have to solve with yourself or in your immediate environment and in what way these behaviors influence so that those problems are not solved. We all find a little bit of voyeurism virtual; The issue is knowing how to find the balance and being able to distinguish when that behavior begins to harm us.
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