If you’re reading this, you’ve been hurt. The person you were counting on to share your life with has hurt you in one way or another, and all you want is for him to realize his mistake and apologize.
The feeling you have is the most normal in the world, You love this person with all your heart and you want them to respect you and treat you as you deserve, it has not been so and you want to be rewarded.
Therefore, the first thing you should answer to yourself is the following: Do you want to forgive this person? Because many times we want our partner’s forgiveness solely as revenge, but we are no longer willing to forgive, forgive from the heart. If you are at this point you do not need to apologize, you just need to heal your wounds and continue without fear with your life. If you have already reached the limit of your patience, it is time for you to take a step forward, close a stage of your life and start a new adventure.
But if you want to forgive this person, because you still love them and if they just show you a little respect you can try again, keep reading:
impose your limits
Things don’t just happen. Sometimes they have to happen for us to learn something but normally they happen because it is what our behavior «promotes» that they happen. It is our way of acting with our partner that forms the relationship and most of our actions.
You must establish your limits, be clear about them and face them.
Write down on a piece of paper all those things you want in your love life: What kind of person is the one you want by your side, what is essential for you. Start with those things that are most common in all healthy relationships: Trust, respect… And little by little, close the fence on the most personal things. Next to each of the things you want, specify with your words what it means to you.
For example:
I want activity: I want to do different things, go for a walk, excursions… That my partner wants to do little things with me.
When you finish this list, take a good look at it, they are the things that you want in your life, and that you need the person you love to give them to you.
After that, make your list of limits to forgive: What things are you willing to forgive and the reason why you agree to forgive. It is important that you be clear that sometimes we can forgive an action once, but not if the action is repeated.
For example:
I am willing to forgive the infidelity that I have discovered, because I think that he really regrets having done it. But I am not willing to forgive a second one.
When you finish this list, look at it and without any fear, think about whether your partner meets the person with whom you want to share your life, and if you are willing to forgive his action. Decide without fear, without fear of being alone, without fear of the future, without fear of regret, fear clouds our vision.
But in the event that you really want the loved one to apologize to you to be able to rebuild your life with your partner, in the event that you are convinced that after an apology everything will be able to be fixed, I give you this prayer that will help you earn his respect, to make him realize that he has failed you and to value you more.
Prayer to ask for forgiveness
I ask the universe, your powerful help to punish (name of the person) with regret and regret for something terrible he did to me.
To you, energy of the universe, interact with (name of the person) causing him to bitterly repent for all the harm he has done to me, for everything he has said to me, for all the sadness he has caused me to live and for all the tears that he has let me shed for ‘tl.
I do not want punishment, I do not want suffering, I only ask you to repent bitterly for everything he has done to me and to make him come back and apologize for all the harm caused.
I only ask for your humility and your honest repentance, so that you never make me suffer in this terrible way again.
Thanks.
After the prayer for forgiveness
After having made the prayer for forgiveness, you should try to cut off all communication with your partner until they ask for your forgiveness. It is how he or she will feel your refusal to keep in touch until they apologize. Otherwise, the pressure exerted by the prayer on him/her is diluted by the contact via messages or calls.
You should know that he/she will call you, want to meet you and apologize. Stay strong for the next few weeks.
If, on the other hand, you maintain communication, keep talking and/or in contact, you will simply forgive him without apologizing.
