A psychologist gives us signs of what could change the world of the most shy when it comes to starting a conversation with another person and it is that for many it is a difficulty trying to talk to someone and capture their attention.
Terri Orbucka doctor of psychology and author of books on relationships, points out that sometimes women tend to think that the typical phrases that men say to meet them are «degrading, sexual, sexist, or just too vulgar.»
However, that’s not to say that it’s impossible to find an entertaining way to grab a stranger’s attention.
Here is a list compiled by the men’s magazine Men’s Healthwith some phrases that supposedly work to meet girls, according to experts.
1. “Sorry, were you talking to me?” (No.) «Then please start doing it»
According to the sociologist and doctor in psychology, Pepper Schwartz, this phrase makes her understand that you want to talk to her and not just take her to your bed. Besides, it also shows your sense of humor.
It is advisable to wait for the girl to respond and for a pause, otherwise she could get upset that you interrupted her and she will not be in the best mood to talk to you.
2. “Hi, I’m doing a study of the worst pickup lines. So what do you think it is: ‘Do you come here very often?’, ‘What’s your sign?’ u ‘Hi, I’m doing a study of what people think are the worst pickup lines’?”
Not only is this joke hilarious, it also shows that you’re capable of laughing at yourself, says Schwartz.
On the other hand, the couples therapist Lisa Thomaspoint out that the girl will probably feel more comfortable because you didn’t put pressure on her, and you may even make her smile.
3. “I bet you 10 thousand pesos that you are going to reject me”
«Most guys overestimate women’s interest in them, which can be off-putting for women,» says relationship expert and Ph.D. in psychology, Wendy Walsh.
The specialist believes that a little self-loathing can actually be cute and down-to-earth. And maybe the girl appreciates it.
4. «How does it feel to be the most beautiful girl here?»
Walsh says that with this phrase you let her know that you chose her over every other girl in the room, which can flatter her.
Tammy Nelson, doctor of psychology and author of several books on relationships, also indicates that a woman never gets tired of being told that she is beautiful. Of course, she warns not to use synonyms such as «sexy» or «rich», because they are vulgar and give the wrong impression.
5. “Besides being beautiful, what do you do for a living?”
Thomas she says that this “pickup line” is likeable, has some humor, and shows a general interest in her and her life. In addition, he complements Schwartzrequests a real response from which a conversation can be established.
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