When a person is unfaithful to his or her partner, the affected person can react in different ways. Getting over an infidelity is usually a long process, full of guilt, anger, rejection, hatred, rage or even emotional indifference.
However, because it is the least common, the latter sometimes frightens those who suffer from it. Is this a normal reaction?
Has your partner been unfaithful to you and it didn't hurt you?
Any emotional reaction is valid, from immediate forgiveness to not wanting to know anything about that person ever again. Sadness, hatred, rage, and anger are the most common responses to infidelity, but it is not a bad thing not to feel pain.
Each person is different. The important thing comes later, when it is time to put yourself first and think about your own well-being. In addition, mourning is a long process and, although you may not have felt pain at first, it is possible that it will appear later.
Normally, when a person suffers an infidelity, they enter into a psychological process in which they It damages your self-esteem, security and confidence both personally and at the relationship level.. Your reaction has been not to feel pain, but little by little you will assimilate the situation. Not feeling pain sometimes ends up translating into feelings of anger and contempt.
Why haven't you felt pain?
There are different reasons why you may not feel pain when you find out about your partner's infidelity.
- At first you don't feel pain, but grieving and negative feelings develop later.
- The relationship was not goodand you were aware of it
- You wanted to end the relationship, and this has been the perfect excuse
- He has done it many times and it no longer causes you any feelings of pain, because you have already been through some very bad times.
- You are tired of disrespectful behavior.
- You expected it to happen, and you've been through grief before.
- You overlook it because you are completely in love and you think that it doesn't hurt you, that you would forgive everything. This is not healthy. Apart from how badly your partner has behaved by being unfaithful, you are doing a lot to yourself. harm to yourself.
Do you want to stay with your partner? Ask yourself that question. If the answer is no, great. This indifference and insensitivity, which may be due to any of the reasons above, will help you move on and get over the breakup. But if the answer is yes, and you want to stay with your partner in a closed relationship, be careful not to fall too far. toxic. You may no longer trust him, and you may not be able to handle the relationship.
The reasons behind infidelity
The main reasons why people are unfaithful are listed below:
- Inability to commit
- Physical attraction to another person
- Lack of communication
- Curiosity
- Jealousy
- Loss of feelings
They should not be normalized; if you and your partner have decided to end the relationship and respect each other, it is to fulfill it and None of these reasons serve as an excuse. If your partner has been unfaithful to you, has betrayed your trust, and has not respected you, then you must take this into account and value yourself.
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