He unemployment It is always an uncomfortable issue to deal with in relationships. It is true that in most cases the intention is to look for work, but what if the opposite occurs? It is still a striking situation.
In many cases, both salaries are needed for each member of the couple, unless one of them is already in a good economic situation, the income is very low and they can afford it.
However, if this is not what is happening in your relationship, it is normal for confusion and conflict to reign, which can lead to a relationship crisis.
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What has led your partner to decide not to work?
If your partner does not want to work, it is time to stop and think about what has motivated that. attitude:
- Don't rush to judge to your partner and take out hasty conclusions.
- Be patient. Sometimes it's a matter of low self-esteem.
- Try to find out what is the reasonTo do this, try to have a relaxed conversation in which he or she sees that you are showing understanding.
- If he answers you evasively, think that there may be a most serious problem.
Your partner may be incapacitated due to age, qualifications or depression derived from unemploymentIf this were the case, you will notice symptoms such as:
- Constant mood swings (irritability, apathy, bad mood, negativity)
- Changing sleeping and eating habits
- Fatigue
- Low sexual appetite
- Low self-esteem (it is considered useless)
- Bitterness
- Denounce injustices
- He does not enjoy leisure hours
What do I do if my partner doesn't want to work?
It's not the same thing if your partner takes time off than if he takes years avoiding having a responsibilityYou may be in a state of comfort and not want to leave your comfort zone.
- Make your expectations clear. You need someone to help financially with household expenses.
- Talk about the consequences or the impact that their unemployment will have on the family environment.
- Set some objectives to be met within a period of time in case you do not see a clear intention to look for a job.
- Looking for a job is synonymous with maturity and working is also synonymous with personal development. If your partner doesn't agree with you on this, there may already be a gap between you that is impossible to heal.
- In case there is no way to make him look for work outside the home, let him work inside it. It is time for him to take charge of the household chores.
- The best option is always to encourage it and remember all your virtues. Appreciate aloft your skills can help you look for a job without feeling pressured.
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