The myth that there can be no friendship between a man and a woman is false, but the risk of falling in love is not. It is very common for your best friend to fall in love since you spend a lot of time together and you usually have the same tastes.
If you are reading this article it is probably because this is happening to you, for that reason We will give you some tips so you know what to do.
How to know if your best friend is in love with you
Your friend may be getting closer to you, wanting to spend more time with you, constantly making jokes, etc.
- Messages all the timeIf he likes you, he'll want to know where you are, who you're with, and what you're doing. So he'll be constantly texting you to find out.
- He looks at you differently. In addition to dressing up more, he looks at you differently.
- He is interested in your love lifeYour best friend asks if you're seeing someone, shows jealousy, or seems unhappy when you tell them.
- Surprise giftsHe gives you books, chocolates, flowers or has other details without you asking for them, simply to please you.
- Available at all times for youNo matter the time or moment, your best friend is always at your disposal.
- You laugh at jokes. He always laughs at your jokes and celebrates all your achievements.
- He gives you too many compliments. There's nothing wrong with receiving occasional compliments from your best friend. However, when your best friend tells you how pretty you are or something else constantly, it could be a sign that your best friend sees you as something more.
Can I date my best friend?
If you notice that your best friend has a crush on you, but you have feelings for him too, don't worry about it and try to establish a more intimate bond.If there is chemistry and your friendship is sincere and you know each other well, you can give each other a chance. If you think you are interested in him as a partner, you can bet on a new relationship.
I don't want to go out with him
Apart from what was mentioned above, another thing can happen and that is that you don't like him. In this case, if you don't have feelings for your best friend, It is best to speak sincerely with him so as not to damage the friendship, Although it may be uncomfortable, it will be the most appropriate option.
If you don't feel that romantic love and want to keep your friendship, let him know. Don't feel bad, if you are clear and don't go out with him, you will break his heart, But if you go out with him, you'll break it anyway, and you'll also fail yourself.
What do I do if I know he has fallen in love with me?
If your best friend has fallen in love with you it is something complicated for both of you since, If it were a coworker or a gym colleague, it would be much easier to resolve.telling him directly and clearly that you are not interested is enough and everything will stay there.
However, this is your best friend, someone you spend a lot of time with and tell everything to, For that reason we do not want to hurt their feelings.
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How does he think?
You might be wondering how he could have fallen in love with you or what is going through his head to be with you. The key is understand what and how your best friend thinks. After all, you share similar tastes in food, music, activities, and you know each other very well.
Your best friend knows you very well and will know what is best for you. He knows you perfectly, he has seen you in your worst and best days and he still loves you, you can't ask for anything more.
Why don't you want him as a partner?
This is when you have to consider what reasons you put on the table for not having anything more than a friendship with him. One of the reasons You may like him/her a lot on a personality and friendship level, but you are not physically attracted to him.
Not being physically attracted to someone is one of the most difficult things to explain to another person, but the key is to compare it to other tastes you have. Having a different taste or preferring something else doesn't have to be bad.
Another reason why we may not want our best friend as a partner may be their attitude. We may tolerate some behaviors just because they are our friends, but not if they were our partner.
There are things that we tolerate in our friends because we see them for a short time and they don't affect our daily lives.But if our partner had those same attitudes, we wouldn't like them and we couldn't be with them.
The final solution
The most effective solution is Talk to your best friend as soon as you canthis way you will prevent him from falling in love with you even more and from getting more excited. You have to manage to give him a good explanation, like the ones we have mentioned above, always without hurting him.
You can tell him that you are looking for something else and that it feels strange to be more than friends, It's not that you don't like him, you just like him as a friend because you like other things. On the other hand, you can tell him that You don't want your friendship to spoil. (something that may be true) trying a relationship that may fail.
Don't mourn a love that died due to lack of interest.
Danns Vega
You can also tell him that People change a lot from best friends to couples and that what you love about your friendship today, tomorrow may be different if you are a couple. After your answer, The fact of remaining friends is already your decisionwell maybe he doesn't want to be with someone he's in love with and with whom it's impossible to achieve anything more.
Besides, Don't forget to express your gratitude for his friendship. We may not like him as a partner, but if he is our best friend it will be for a reason and it is that his friendship gives us things that the others do not. Telling him what a good friend he is and how much you love him is essential.
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