What is your idea of a couple relationship? Is it about sharing or being exclusive? This is undoubtedly one of the biggest debates in modern relations. LMonogamy has been considered for centuries as an exclusive bond of upbringing and reproduction as a couple, but this notion is opposed to polygamy.
This has nothing to do with fidelity, and we say that before you start excusing the facts of any past or current relationship. Let’s think about monogamy and polygamy from an evolutionary and purely scientific field.
First, let’s define what is monogamy and polygamy. Monogamy is the type of relationship based on sexual exclusivity in a couple united indefinitely. On the other hand, polygamy is the type of relationship in which within the couple one of them (or both) can have a link with two or more people, whether married or free.
In both notions, science and culture are constantly interposed. For millions of years polygamy was considered to work scientifically to weave diversity. However, little by little the culture structured monogamy as the basis of traditional marriages and the key to the success of a relationship.. But…
How natural is monogamy and polygamy?
According to biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, monogamy is as natural as polygamy, or rather adultery. The difference is that the human being is a species that managed to develop links.
A person’s life is defined by various serial liaisons and clandestine adultery. This means that we naturally form bonds, relationships, but after a while we end that bond and move on to adultery.
Jim Cooke
Somehow we experience the bonds of a couple to develop sexuality, intense love and feelings of attachment. Each of these elements is connected to each other and transforms.
It is possible to feel an attachment to someone, but instantly feel intense love for another person, and then feel physical or sexual attraction to someone else. You don’t necessarily feel all three elements at the same time, the possibilities are endless.
The ideal relationship for each person
However, Fisher explains polygamy through science. The world needed these relationships to diversify and grow, after all, humanity is the result of an immense reproductive mix.
So if you feel caught between what society would do and the nature of diversity, we can tell you that it is completely normal. We have created both a penchant for monogamy and polygamy.
Jim Cooke
Possibly if you are looking for a serious relationship you are more focused on having stability, which cannot be achieved in a series of short relationships based on sexuality. In a relationship that seeks a marriage or start a family, something more is sought than just sharing sexuality, other factors determine that coexistence.
In polygamous relationships, possibly a priority is to maintain sexual freedom over other elements. For this reason each human being defines what kind of relationship he builds, it’s all about your priorities and those of the person next to you.
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