Some people believe that it is possible to be just friends, without relationship-damaging sex; others say «friend the cheese mouse». What do you think?
On the occasion of the anniversary number 25 from the famous romantic comedy ‘When Harry met Sally’, directed by Rob Reiner and written by nora ephronwe have decided to review some points of view of this controversial topic.
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1. The guy always wants to have sex with his female friend
That is Harry’s non-negotiable statement. It doesn’t matter if he is attracted to the woman or not, he will always want to sleep with her. Why? Well, there’s the matter of «social pressure»say sociologists and psychologists.
Let’s say a man spends a night with his friend and they sleep in – the same – bed. There are only two variables for the end of that meeting: that there is sex or that there is not.
If there is sex, the guy will tell all his friends who will congratulate him and ask any kind of questions. (Boys being boys)but if not…bullying can be quite unbearable.
2. The FRIEND ZONE
Hey, are you guys feeling cold? Yes? Ah it must be because they are in the FRIEND-ZONE. Let’s see, for those who don’t know what that name is about, we can explain:
“It is said of the area to which those people who are cataloged only and solely as ‘friends’ go, since there are no feelings of attraction towards them”
Guys are always going to want to sleep with the girl, unless they’re in this frigid, antisocial, horrible space. Let’s get out of here because everything feels hostile.
3. What if the girl doesn’t want to have sex with her friend?
Okay, this variable proposed by Sally is totally valid. The man will always want to sleep with his friend, but maybe she won’t. So, nothing is likely to happen and those four letters are not involved in your relationship.
BUT (don’t they hate that there’s always a ‘but’?), we are talking about two people who go out together all the time. There is always a bar, some (exotic?) drinks, music and other ingredients that can ignite the pheromones and make their friendship… Oops, break. (We just hope that’s the ONLY thing that breaks.)
4. Finally, they have sex and…
They were friends! They were seriously friends! They were friends for days, months, years! Okay, but get over it: they’ve already had sex. Get to know your “private parts” and you know theirs. They are more than friends.
The question is: Can their friendship be the same again?
Relax, sure. That is, if one of them does not feel something more for the other, it is totally feasible that their friendship will follow its normal course.
At least that both, after having spent «that moment together», decide… to go further. Or else they can go back to doing the same funny nonsense as always.
5. Is friendship worth risking?
For that question, there is no possible answer. In Harry and Sally’s case it was all worth it. Although they tried to hide it for years, they were in love and when they finally accepted it they decided to get married.
And well, we already know what happens next…
Either way, between a male best friend and a female best friend… there is a fine (sexual) line that you must take care not to cross, if you do not want to have your head in a mess, of course.
Taken from America TV