The emotional independence It is synonymous with freedom, mental strength and maturity.
Emotionally independent people are those whose life does not depend on anyone, that is, they are self-sufficient. This does not mean that they cannot rely on others, only that Your attitude does not depend on another person directly.
What is emotional independence?
Emotional independence is an attitude that makes a person mature enough to your emotions or your life do not depend on third parties.
This does not mean that other people's feelings, situations or states do not matter or affect you, but that It will not depend on what others may say or the attention they may give it. Therefore, we can say that emotional independence is the opposite of emotional dependence.
We could define an emotionally independent person as self-confidentfree, not dependent on others. But This does not mean that he does not relate to or care about other people.Like any person, we live in society and we interact with each other, which makes us create emotional bonds with our friends or loved ones and therefore we care about them, with all that this implies.
We must be aware that, despite being an emotionally independent person, You may also go through bad times, moments of weakness and need for emotional support.like any other person.
At times like these, it is important for the person to feel supported, as they can, should and want to be supported in the worst moments, receive affection, etc., even if they do not depend on continuous attention in their day to day life to feel happy and fulfilled.
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What is emotional dependence?
On the contrary, emotional dependence is the need of a person who bases his or her life or happiness on the continuous attention of others.
That is, it needs to be the focus of people's attention and His happiness depends on the attention paid to himso if they are constantly watching over her, caring for her, attentive, she is the center of attention, this will make her happier and vice versa.
This pathological behavior can be caused by problems from childhood, for example, lack of attention and affection in this, by their family and/or friends. And also by the overprotection when she was little, not allowing her to create her own autonomy and freedom.
In these situations, the best thing you can do with an emotionally dependent person is to help them. It is important not to play along too much. That is, if they get angry or become sad because you do not pay them the attention they consider necessary, do not do it to make them happy, but explain to them in a calm and friendly way that it does not always have to be this way, that they do not always have to be the center of attention, do not agree with them.
Another way to help him is to recommend him to go to a psychologist professional who can help you resolve your insecurities and build a strong and free personality.
How can I be emotionally independent?
Becoming emotionally independent takes time and work, it is not easy, especially if you are a very emotionally dependent person, but it is possible. Emotional independence will be beneficial for your health, as it will give you very positive attitudes and perspectives. You will have a more positive view of yourself, you will love yourself, you will prioritize more, you will understand yourself better, you will be able to better manage both your emotions and external and complicated situations that occur to you, etc.
There are some steps to achieve or maintain that emotional independence:
- Admit your situation. If you are an emotionally dependent person, it is best to be aware so you can work on it little by little.
- Work on it. Work on overcoming this dependency to achieve emotional independence. This will be better and easier with the help of a psychologist.
- Take responsibility. Both in terms of situations and your emotions. You must be aware and understand that you cannot always be the center of attention and that your mood should not depend on that.
- Let yourself be helped. Accept the advice that your loved ones give you, such as recognizing situations where you behave with a dependent attitude. The support of your family and friends will be beneficial in the process for you, since it may be difficult and seeing how your loved ones support you will help encourage you to continue and cope better.
- Go to therapy. The help of a psychologist It is the most effective in these cases, a professional can help you become aware and work together, little by little, to achieve emotional independence.
How can a psychologist help me?
Even if you are already an emotionally independent person, going to a psychologist will still be beneficial for you, since you will be able to reinforce everything that makes you have that emotional independence in order to maintain it. Also because even if that attitude prevails in you, we will always go through moments of weakness, harder ones, which we also have to work on and overcome.
Furthermore, a psychologist has the necessary skills to help you solve your problems. You have to be aware that a specialist will not tell you what the clear solution to your problems is, nor will he solve them overnight. Instead, with time and effort, you will work together to see and analyze your problem in order to achieve the final objective, that emotional independence.
- Working on self-esteemIt is very important to maintain good self-esteem in order to maintain good mental health. This way, you will be less or not at all affected by comments that, for example, people may say that affect other people (emotionally dependent people) a lot.
- Recognize the causesIf you are emotionally dependent, a psychologist can help you see what the causes of this dependency are and work on them to solve them.
- Work on your emotionsWith the help of a psychology professional, you can learn to listen, recognize, accept and manage your emotions. This way, you will better manage the different situations that may occur in the future and it will be easier for you to cope with them.
- Appreciate. Both yourself and your work and efforts. Not only if you have done something well, but everything, the attempt to do something, the will and the effort you have put into it even if it has not worked out for you. Have a positive view of life, but also a realistic one.
- Feel better about yourself. Going to therapy will ultimately help you take care of your mental health and will help you very positively.
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