Maybe you are one of the «naturally unfaithful» or maybe not. But do you really know? Most of the time, these things start out innocently enough, before you know it, you’ve fallen down the rabbit hole.
There are certain habits that, according to relationship experts, are typical of people who tend to end up cheating on their partners.
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If you or your partner are participating in any of them, you may want to take a hard look in the mirror and consider why is he behaving this way.
Here are 4 cheating signs to watch out for before you do something you’ll regret:
1. You are always complaining.
You know the type: nothing is good enough for them and there is always something to point out.
But if you are never satisfied with anything, at some point you will not be satisfied with your relationship either. And when you’re not happy, you’re more likely to be tempted to wander off.
Even more toxic complain about your partner to others.
Telling your friends every little thing she does that pisses you off, or complaining to her family about her workaholic habits It’s not just cruel, it’s a betrayal of trust.
2. You take a lot of risks.
People who have adventures have to do with drama.
To keep things interesting, they tend to be very willing to take risks, including cheating on their partner and risking getting caught.
the psychologist Ildiko Tabori says that serial cheaters «prefer to ride an emotional roller coaster rather than enjoy emotional stability… [los infieles] get an adrenaline rush of the bruises figurative that leave conflicts and disturbances with your partner».
Cheaters are not only risk takers, they they are also opportunists. They tend to be very calculatinglooking for situations in which they can have the opportunity to «play».
“Someone is more likely to cheat when the opportunity arises, not just when they are away from their partner, but when an opportunity arises to take advantage of a potential partner,” warns Dr. Tabori.
3. You keep things to yourself.
One thing that can lead to unhappiness in your relationship, which could then lead to infidelity, is not telling your partner what you want. Do you wish you could spice things up in the bedroom but are afraid to broach the subject with your partner? Do you feel alone and want more connection, but you don’t know how to fix it, so you keep quiet and don’t say anything?
A 2014 study of Ashley Madisonthe website for potential cheaters, showed that, in general, men cheat because seek sexual varietywhile women they cheat because they want to feel desired.
Here’s an idea: maybe if we told each other what we wanted in the first place, we wouldn’t feel the need to cheat on our partners.
4. You tell white lies.
If you have told your partner some lies in the past and gotten away with it, you are more likely to keep raising the bet.
There is a difference between telling your partner that you didn’t realize you had gained weight (when in fact you did notice) and tell him that you were shopping at the supermarket when in fact you were meeting an old boyfriend/girlfriend for a drink.
The first lie is destined to protect your feelings (which is also not good because there are ways to say things without hurting, but also without lying), while the second is to prevent you from having to have a awkward confrontation.
But it may not even matter what kind of lie it is or what your motivation is. A study in Journal of Language and Social Psychology suggests that People who tell white lies are also more likely to cheat on their partners about more important things.
So the next time you’re tempted to avoid your partner’s feelings or avoid a fight, maybe it’s best to be honest.
While you’re at it, talk about what you want, calm down and stop taking chances, and try to curb the temptation to complain so much. It could save your relationship from infidelity.