I loved a Cancer man and this is what I learned

When I found myself loving a guy who matched my ability to love, I knew I had to walk away.

To him, loving someone meant loving them deeply, and to him, that didn’t mean to me.

So I left.

He was a cancer man: moody, sensitive, emotional af, the whole nine-yard set. With my moon in Cancer (ruler of emotions), I got it. I’ve always been super in touch with my emotions, like a Cancer. All I ever wanted was to love someone and be loved in return. Caring deeply about other people has always been my thing.

If there is one thing I know to be true of all Cancers, it is that they are so in touch with their emotions.

They hold on to the memories of the people who hurt them just as strongly as they hold on to those people. In this case, she was his ex-girlfriend. After their heart is broken, it takes them a long time to open up to someone new. Sometimes when they are sad, they isolate themselves. Let me tell you this: the water signs of love drown in their tears.

When Cancers get hurt, they never really get over it.

Sometimes the Cancer becomes very clingy and needy because they really care so much about other people and things. And sometimes, they just use manipulation to get you to stay.

Sounds bad, I know, but the cancer I was involved with kept me close because it was kind. It’s a cancer thing, I think, be nice. When she noticed how I started to distance myself from him, she knew just what to say to get me back in. It made me feel special, wanted, needed, loved. But the underlying problem between us was that she kept holding on to his feelings for her ex.

I loved a Cancer man and learned how hard it was for me to walk away. I saw so much of myself in him. I understand your emotions and your feelings. Still, I learned how easy it was for him to neglect my feelings. She was selfish with the way she cared.

I invested myself in a four-year relationship with him, but looking back, I see that it was never really a relationship at all. It was just me and my feelings and and her feelings and that separation was what hurt me. Still, I can forgive. But as a Cancer man, I will never forget.