Bitterness, an emotion that can take root in a person's psyche. For Juan, his bitterness has become an invisible cloak that shrouds his interactions with others. After experiencing repeated rejections in the workplace, bitterness It has taken root in his self-esteem and colored his vision of the future. Even in seemingly positive situations, his distrust and inclination to expect the worst have led him to disconnect emotionally.
A bitter or bitter person is one who has a pessimistic view of everything around him and sees negative consequences for any action. When we think of this type of people, they are often called toxic because they impregnate with their negativity Your environment and your way of thinking can influence what the people around you think or feel.
Although this may not necessarily be the case in all cases, a bitter person may be suffering from depression and this is their way of expressing their discomfort. In any case, this type of person should not be abandoned, but rather they should be given the help they need to get out of their own hole.
It is easy to identify a bitter person's own bitterness with the manifestation of three attitudes:
- A extreme perfectionism which prevents you from achieving your goals and causes low self-esteem.
- Continuous victimhood that surfaces when a situation becomes overwhelming and does not allow progress towards a way out of the situation.
- Continuous comparison with other people who are considered successful.
At what point does it determine how you relate?
This type of behavior does not appear without any reason. Most likely, it is conditioned by a previous hard experience which has shaped the character to tend to be more sensational. The reasons are varied because things like the Lack of affection in childhood, deaths of loved ones or any catastrophe of a personal nature has been able to leave a deep mark on a person's life. It is worth mentioning that a single milestone does not change a person, but the accumulation of them does.
Bitter people can be seen as toxic because of the attitudes they have towards their environment.
What is the solution?
If you think you are bitter, You must be aware of the importance of working on your own attitudes. To begin, detect the “toxic” attitudes that you have with yourself and your environment. If you consider that it is something that is beyond you, do not hesitate to ask for help from a specialist.
- Collect all negative thoughts that you have in your head about yourself, analyze how you perceive yourself and what makes you feel uncomfortable. Maybe it is your physical appearance, your low productivity, the emotional relationships you had until now were not very healthy, etc. These thoughts are probably varied but the moment you are aware that you have them you will be able to remedy them.
- Think about how you interact with your environment and if you find it enjoyable to put down the spirits or disregard the positive feelings of the people around you. Even without going to such extremes, you may be causing a negative impact on the people you care about. If you decide to change your way of seeing things, don't do it just for yourself, do it for them.
- Find the origin of everything that makes you feel badthat will give you clues to find a solution.
- When you detect all of the above, use the method and trial and error on remedies to alleviate negative feelings towards yourself. If what bothers you is your unproductivity, look for an efficient way of organization. Start with simple steps, you don't need to plan every day hour by hour. Remember that It is much more efficient to set concrete and short-term goals. How far away are our great achievements and we can become demotivated. An online psychologist from can help you achieve the goals you set for yourself through online therapy. Try a free session.
- Your goal is reconcile yourself with your immediate surroundingsSo, make it your goal to be more positive for the people around you. Learn to share their enthusiasm and make the happiness of the people you care about part of your happiness.
- Find hobbies and activities that fulfill youNot only will they distract you, if you find that you are good at them in the end they will help reinforce your perception of the whole thing.
- Learn to be more friendly and use positive vocabularywhich although it may seem like a small thing, changes a lot because it makes being with you more pleasant and the atmosphere more relaxed.
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