It may be that you have been with your partner for a long time and suddenly you are invaded by a feeling of being overwhelmedThere is also the case of getting to know someone, being excited, and suddenly starting to feel overwhelmed and having negative thoughts about what you are building with that person.
Both situations are relatively common and often stem from a problem of stress or anxiety. In turn, it may be the case that we are idealizing or thinking too much about the situation and that generates that feeling of overwhelm.
The first thing we have to know is that, if we are in a relationship or are going to start one, we have to feel comfortable with our partner. A relationship is made up of two people and is based on the trust, affection and respectamong many other things. In addition to a good communicationThat is to say, it is necessary to be with a person who adds and not subtracts.
Therefore, if you notice that at some point you are starting to feel overwhelmed, you should tell them. Many times, when we feel overwhelmed, we have attitudes that can be annoying to the other person. This hurts them, since our partner does not know why we behave this way.
Needs answers and we have to give them to them. The best way to do it is to have a conversation where you make it clear why you feel that way, what is wrong in your relationship and what is right. This way you can work to improve the relationship.
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The same goes for when you're just getting to know someone. You can't make the decision to start a relationship if you're not 100% sure that you're comfortable with it. If you're feeling overwhelmed, it could be because you're not ready or because you need more time to take the step of formalizing those feelings.
It can also be because of your own insecurities or simply because you have had very idealized your previous relationships and you have to be clear that this time you are going to manage it differently.
How to manage overwhelm?
Work, routine, social stress and emotional problems are some of the most common causes of burdenStress is a common feeling and you should not feel guilty if it is your partner who causes it. Here are some tips to help you manage it:
- Calm down. Do breathing exercises to stay calm. When you feel overwhelmed, take a break, breathe deeply and don't think about anything. Staying calm is essential because in times of stress we can say and do irrational things that we may later regret.
- Take some time to reflectTake some time to find out if it is your partner who is overwhelming you and what the main reasons are. Organize your ideas and look for the solution for each of your problems.
- Talk to your partner. Explain to him how you feel, what is bothering you. Remember that if you don't tell him, he will continue to act the same and things will not change. Good communication is essential.
- Make decisions. Once you have spoken with your partner, decide whether you can overcome these obstacles together or whether, on the contrary, your stress has reached an irreversible point and it is better to let go. You also have the option of taking some time to think about your decision.
- Do things that distract yourself. To get rid of that feeling of being overwhelmed and to get rid of the things in our heads, it is good to do other activities. Practice everything that you like and that makes you happy. Afterwards, you will see the problems from another point of view.
- Let it all out. Meet with your group of friends, family or trusted people who you know will listen to you. Don't keep anything to yourself. Listening to the opinions of your loved ones will undoubtedly help you feel better and perhaps make a decision.
What recommendations are there to overcome stress?
First of all, we must remember that In many cases, stress can be covering up the beginnings of anxiety. This may be related to the dissatisfaction you feel for having made a wrong decision.
Don't forget that if you are in a relationship or want to start one it is because You are happy with that personbecause your partner makes you feel good, that together you complement each other and you feel fulfilled.
But you have to know understand you first to be able to understand your partner. First, get to know yourself and find out what you want. Only then will you be able to have a fulfilling relationship and get rid of that stress. To love and be comfortable with someone, first You have to love yourself and be comfortable with yourself.
If you think you won't be able to overcome that stress when starting a relationship or being in one, you can ask for help. A online psychologist will give you guidelines and tools to manage your emotions and find solutions to your problems. In addition, through the couples therapyyou will be able to open up to your partner if you are not able to do so alone with them.
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