Some women tell their therapists “I feel alone” and they think that something is not right because they live with their partners. This has explanation and solution.
Although certain individuals feel that it is better to be single and live alone, not everyone is the same; Being social mammals, human beings need and appreciate contact with our peers, which is why we form pairs naturally.
Although some people might think that long-term love relationships and coexistence would somehow become an antidote to loneliness, the truth is that this is not the case in all cases; according to the national survey AARP Foundation (2018), one in three married people, over the age of 45, reports that they feel lonely.
However, the fact that it is a generalized phenomenon and more common than we think, does not mean that it is normal or that it is okay; Feeling like this is probably a sign that something is wrong in the relationship, for example, lack of pillars at the time of commitment, or in one’s personal life.
Reasons why you say “I feel alone” even though you are not
- Sons: Be careful, maybe you feel like a mushroom is the opposite of loneliness; Spending all your energy caring for others and not receiving any affection can make you feel isolated. We advise you not to neglect the couple due to parental roles.
- Disconnection: Sometimes some changes, problems or fights within the couple cause the connection that exists between the members to be lost; after any of these events, it is urgent to reconnect in a romantic and, why not say it, intimate way.
- Simple oversight: When routine shows up at the door, you have to be on your guard. Love is not something that is found, but is built day by day with dedication and effort, therefore, do not let yourself take advantage of monotony!
A study of Journal of Family Psychology found that in most marriages, husbands’ and wives’ levels of loneliness were uncorrelated; That means the other spouse probably has no idea how lonely his or her partner feels.
Talk to your partner and verbally express what you are feeling without looking for blame; If necessary, attend couples therapy, as this professional can help you learn to communicate, make agreements and fulfill them.
Advises the psychologist from the Universidad Javeriana André Didyme-Dome.
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