Everyone at some point has suffered from the famous writer’s block when writing a letter. You might even think that your partner does not inspire you or that words simply do not come out when it comes to love, but it goes beyond that.
Perhaps you are not at the best time to write a letter, or perhaps you do not have the correct advice and tools to do so. So here are some tips from writers and novelists that will make writing love letters a simple task.
How to start your love letter
Start with a sweet greeting like, «Dear,» «My love,» or a cute nickname you use to let the other person know the letter is meant for them. Don’t be afraid to go soft to set the mood.
Then explain the reason why you write that letter. Maybe it’s because you really want to put your feelings into words, you’re so full of love that you can’t help yourself, or you think that person is so special that they deserve a personal letter and not just a card.
If you’re writing your letter in honor of Valentine’s Day, a birthday, anniversary, or other special occasion, this introduction is a great place to do it. Then, in the next paragraph or two, get straight to the point to express how you feel.
Delve into the best of your partner
A really effective love note, like any good piece of writing, is about authenticity and specificity, says Devon Daniels, author of Meet You in the Middle.
Instead of rattling off a long list of traits that might come off as insincere, pick a couple of things you love about this person and dig into them. For example, you could say, «Your commitment to helping others inspires me to be more generous,» or «I love that you’re never too busy to take a break and play with our kids.»
Once you zero in on one trait, you’ll be amazed at how easily the words flow, says Daniels.
For writer Gina Hamadey, who wrote her husband a thank-you note every day for a month, being specific became even more important as she focused on things as simple as her husband playing music in the house or the rich who prepared breakfast. «The most effective love letter is the one that enlightens the person and everything they do well»points out.
be personal
«Don’t try to sound like someone else. You don’t have to be poetic unless those kinds of things come naturally,» advises Kristan Higgins, author of Pack Up the Moon.
On the other hand, Higgins suggests thinking about the fundamental aspects of your relationship. You might say, «I knew you were going to be important because you made me laugh the first time we met.» Or you can point out the nice things that your partner makes you feel.
«I learned that the most romantic, generous and loving letters are not necessarily the most poetic,» says Hamadey; «I think everyone in a relationship wants to be fully appreciated by the other person.»
The intention is what counts
Writers know that the best way to beat block is to relieve the pressure. Don’t pressure yourself to write a Pulitzer-worthy masterpiece. Even if you are the worst writer on the planet, your partner or loved one will appreciate a letter that truly comes from your soul and sincerity. «No matter what, your special someone will love it if you put in the effort,» says Higgins; «That is love, after all. Be there and do your best«.
With information from Good Housekeeping
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