If you are desperate because you go from fight to fight, we show you how to talk to your partner so that he understands you once and for all.
Couple relationships can be complicated by communication problems, that is, in reality there may not be any problem, but only that they are not communicating properly.
We tell you how to talk to your partner so that they understand you
Although those who give advice on communication in the couple always talk about words, non-verbal communication, etc., we found a therapist who surprised us by touching on the subject of energies.
We refer to the Austrian facilitator Richard West, who talks about this and other issues in his book awakening through change. We take some of his advice and share it with you, as you can apply it with your partner.
It’s not the what, it’s the how
According to this coach, what you say in interactions, although it is important to make yourself understood, is not the most important thing. What matters most is the quality of energy you bring to your interactions.
Your partner will respond more to energy than to words. Understand that you will not be able to change him, but if you focus on expressing your truth, while acknowledging his, there will be mutual understanding.
energy, but positive
Obviously it can happen that in a conversation with your partner the atmosphere begins to become rarefied. When that’s how you feel, that’s how he feels. If that happens, there is bad energy and it is better to stop talking immediately.
Learn when to shut up
If you’re in the middle of a conversation and things get out of control because your partner won’t agree to bring it up later and more calmly, the best advice is to keep quiet.
Your partner will probably try to hurt you to get your attention, generating violent communication that you can only cut off if you remain calm and you do not respond to their aggressions. Be like the Buddha: self-control.
lean on empathy
An empathic person is one who can put himself in another’s shoes. This is very important to take into account the perspectives of others even if you do not agree with what your counterpart thinks, says or proposes.
Accept, even if you don’t agree
Understanding in its classical meaning could be overrated. Rather than agree, you have to accept other people’s truthseven when they go against your opinions.
If there is positive energy flowing during the conversation, you will feel it because you will reach a point where you accept that you are both right to be consistent with your respective truths. They have come to the true understanding.
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