Sometimes we tend to abuse the term «bad person«. We accuse those who simply do not share our way of seeing things of being unethical. To bear the fact of not getting along with someone, we think that they are the ones who are wrong.
That's not true. But just because there are fewer bad people than we think doesn't mean they don't exist.
What is (and isn't) being a bad person?
Bad people are those with bad intentions, That is, those who act to do evil consciously, systematically and without remorse.
Being a bad person should not be equated with having a mental disorder, nor should it be thought that one is more likely to be evil if one has psychological problems.
There are bad people who have personality disorders, just as there are bad people who do not have any type of disorder. We must not stigmatize; on the contrary: we must ensure social inclusion and remember that No mental illness alone leads anyone to deliberately cause harm.
What is the origin of evil?
Human beings We are born with the ability to do evil and to exercise cruelty.
However, there is no evidence that there is an «evil gene» that conditions people to be bad from birth.
What really influences whether a person is good or bad are their experiencesIf you have felt protected, if you have lived a full childhood, if you have received enough affection, if you have had people who guided you and supported you in bad times…
It is precisely when the most basic needs are not met that problems develop. Personality traits that typically characterize bad people: selfishness, narcissism, thirst for revenge…
Characteristics that can help you recognize a bad person
There are many types of bad people and making a faithful portrait of all of them is mission impossible.
However, bad people oftenThey feel superior to others and that's why they don't care about causing harm or being disrespectful. If you are human and you assume that other people are less than you, then you come to the conclusion that they are subhuman and that they don't have to have the same rights as you.
Hence they are normally:
- Hurtful.
- Disrespectful.
- Manipulators.
- Egocentric.
- Liars.
- Violent.
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Risks of living with a bad person
Living with a bad person is highly destructive to self-esteem.
If you spend your days with someone who makes no effort to hide the fact that he thinks he's better than you, in the end Your perception takes a toll on your personality and you end up believing it.
That's what usually happens in the dynamics of abuse: Constant aggression, whether physical or psychological, completely undermines self-concept and victims end up thinking that if this happens to them it is because they deserve it. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Also, living with a bad person generates large amounts of stressas it forces you to always be alert, prepared to face possible attacks.
And of course, it can lead to problems like depression.
How can you protect yourself against someone like that?
- Take distanceboth physically and emotionally.
- If you don't have the option to physically distance yourself, then the best thing you can do is to distance yourself emotionally.
- Whenever you receive an attack, make an effort to repeat to yourself that what it says is not true. Your worth does not depend on their opinion.
- Surround yourself with people who support you and love you.
- Always keep your worth in mind. You are a valid person, capable of doing good things and being able to stand on your own two feet. Remember that there are people who love you and try to love yourself too.
- Spend as little time as possible with him/her.
- If you feel strong, make it clear to that person that you do not agree with the way they behave. Try not to put yourself on their level, because that will only make things worse.
What to do if you think you are a bad person
If you think you are a bad person, you should know that all is not lost. You are not the first nor the last to fear that you are doing everything wrong. In fact, we have worked with patients who were convinced that they were the worst people in the world.
However, your concern about this is progress. Realizing you're doing something wrong is the first step towards finding a solution.
It is important to be aware of the “evil things” we do and question why we do them and how they make others feel. If these habits are deeply rooted in life, it is best to put yourself in the hands of a professional capable of finding the origin of these attitudes and giving us the necessary tools to develop more productive habits.
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