Many times the people around us, whether family or friends, are not feeling well emotionally or do not pay attention to us when we want to lend them a hand.
There are many people who are wrong, who need psychological help and they don't realize it. And the reality is that it is a big problem, because the people who want to help them get frustrated because they are not aware of the urgent change they require.
How do you help someone who doesn't let you help them?
To offer support and protection to a person who is sad or feeling bad, three aspects must be taken into account:
- The person: We have to be aware that this person is part of our environment (siblings, parents, friends…) because depending on that degree of closeness or intimacy, it will be easier or more difficult to help them. The person will be more willing to listen to us and will be advised by the recommendations that we make available to them. Likewise, we must be clear that it is not easy for them to ask for help because there are barriers that do not allow it.
- The barriers: This is the key point of this problem. We must try to find out what are those impediments that do not allow him to express himself emotionally in order to achieve a change in his life. Many times it is the fear of losing people.
- Putting yourself in their shoes: 3s true that most likely they will answer us “Yes, one thing is to say it and another thing is to live it”, But to do this, it is essential to put ourselves in the other person's shoes. Because no matter how much advice we give them, if we do not try to put ourselves in their experience, they will not pay the slightest attention to us.
In this context, it is important to keep three pieces of advice in mind. They are as follows:
- You can't help someone who doesn't want to. There is no need to get frustrated if the other person does not want to let him help them, a situation that occurs frequently. keep calmsince we will not always be able to help, no matter how much it hurts us. It is essential Let that person be the one to ask for our supportFrom that moment on, we must do everything in our power to help that person achieve change.
- The motivation for change. It is the most important aspect of all. It is necessary be certain that the person is aware of the problem that he has, since otherwise it will be impossible for him to ask for our help. Find out if the person is ready to share their problems with us is one of the most essential pillars to be able to undertake the adventure towards the resolution of the conflicts that concern you. Therefore, it is necessary go little by little. It is vitally important not to run, since what we need is for the person to open up to us with complete confidence. In this way, we will prevent the affected person from rejecting us. In this context, it can be helpful to speak from the first person, without obligations or impositions.
- The person is aware of the change. From this moment on, it is convenient to have the help from a professionalin this case with psychological help, either by one's own will or by recommendation to the affected person who is already aware that a change is needed.
If the psychologist If a person is aware of the solution to the problem, it will be easier to conclude the therapy and diagnosis in a rational manner. On the contrary, if a person does not show himself in a condition to undertake a process to achieve peace of mind or get away from his fears you can't force him.
Taking the step is the decision of the affected person.
In short, when she feels ready to go to the appointment With specialized personnel, we can:
- Accompany him to the consultation to convey our support
- Worry about the situation where you are and what you need, but respecting your space and decisions
- Facilitate contact between qualified persons
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