Gamophobia is the irrational, uncontrolled and persistent fear of marriage; Although they tend to be confused, it is not the same as the fear of commitment, philophobia. The difference between these two concepts is that a person who suffers from gamophobia has no fear or problem in establishing himself in a serious and lasting relationship, as long as it does not trigger marriage, that is where the fear of him originates.
Although the causes of phobias are unique to each individual, it is considered that this fear begins before reaching adult lifeunless something catastrophic happens that generates that fear in the personLike a traumatic divorce.
According to the specialist Rosalba Lázaro, head of studies at the Department of Psychology at the Universidad Iberoamericana in Mexico City, in an article on the Salud 180 web portal, «phobias can make certain acts impossible,» referring to the performance of the same ; In the case of gamophobia, it occurs because «all thoughts related to aggression and sexuality that human beings experience are harbored in the unconscious.»
There is currently no drug for this or any other phobia, in this specific case it is recommended to talk about the pros and cons of marriage with someone you trust with whom you feel connected, inform your partner about this fear, since communication and understanding are key to overcoming this phobia; And finally, if you consider it necessary, you can go to phobia professionals to perform psychotherapy, behavioral therapy and exposure therapy, as a possible solution to your problem.
The expert sexologist in couples therapy and family mediation, Blanca Isabel Soria Arranz, on the Mundo Psicologos web portal, points out that despite the fact that this phobia is more common in men, since they consider that they will lose the possibility of enjoying certain experiences associated with singleness and it is socially better seen that a man has several partners; in recent years, the number of women with this phobia has increasedsince they detest the traditional role to which married women submit, thus generating gamophobia, unconsciously boycotting their partners and relationships.
The symptoms associated with this phobia usually manifest when the idea of marriage takes shape, subsequently, conversations associated with marriage are avoided at all costs, thus producing an evasion of the subject. In addition to the aforementioned symptoms, at the moment the idea is concretized, you can panic, accelerating your heart rate, shortness of breath, trembling, fear, dread and terror.
Feeling afraid of marriage can be normal; however, we are sure that by finding the right person, overcoming this fear will be easier for those who suffer from it. Additionally, professional help will never hurt, which at the end of the day will generate a positive impact on the life not only of those who suffer from this phobia, but also of their partner.