It is sad to know that monotony can end any relationship of years, thinking contrary that the more the years go by, the more trust there will be and it is not like that, so pay attention to these 8 signs.
It is common for couples to have ups and downs over the years. Worries, work, money, children (if you have them)… life itself leads us towards monotony. Towards a routine that can make us think that if the adventure is risky, then the day to day is deadly.
It is not easy to identify that one lives in monotony where two people share their lives but at the same time it seems that one lives very far from the other. Moreover, many times love turned into affection. A residual that remains after all the years shared and the experiences lived.
How to know if your relationship broke down?
Some psychologists say that some warning signs are identified that reveal that it is best to cut to the chase. Martin Virasoro is a psychological consultant and specialist in Link Counseling and assures: «When a relationship is about to end, people tend to suspect it, you may even feel an uneasy feeling in your stomach, because you realize that your partner is not paying attention to you or is not paying attention to you in a genuine way.»
Women tend to express it more because they grieve during the relationship, while men do not see the signs and realize that the relationship ended when their partner «makes the decision to leave him».
1. YOU’RE ALWAYS TO BLAME
Humans are the only living beings capable of communicating through language. Dialogue is essential in all aspects of our lives, but even more so in intimate relationships. If your partner doesn’t want to talk to you, shows no interest in resolving conflicts, or simply blames you for all the problems, the relationship is most likely hopeless.
For a relationship to be maintained and nurtured, talking and resolving differences is one of the pillars that must be more strongly grounded. «Nothing is more hurtful than the feeling that the people around us don’t really listen to what we have to say».
2. YOU DON’T HAVE TIME FOR ACTIVITIES TOGETHER
We already commented that the routine is relentless, but if apart from this we do not make an effort to share with our partner, it is most likely that communication will begin to fail. Scheduling a date, a sexual encounter somewhere different, going out to the movies or just having a coffee are details that make the relationship not end up losing its spark, grow and prosper.
3. NO EVIDENCE OF IMPROVEMENT IN THE RELATIONSHIP
Real life is full of potholes and adversities. They are obstacles that must be overcome and overcome, the problems come when this does not happen. When we expect things to resolve themselves and, as if that were not enough, we naturalize that the situation is part of the relationship, then we have to rethink the bond with the other person.
4. YOU SHOW INTEREST IN OTHER PEOPLE
If we frequently think of other people, if we are attracted to others, if we look for other options, the relationship is not as strong as you thought.
Listening to our inner voice can be very helpful in these situations. Because it will help us by knowing what we really feel. Listen to ourselves, know, understand what we want and if we still project our life with our current partner or not.
5. PRIORITIES HAVE CHANGED
As a famous song says: «changes, everything changes». It is common for us to evolve, change interests and even tastes. It may also be that this whole situation leads you to estrangement, since you would not share the same hobbies or hobbies.
6. DESIRE DISAPPEARED
A clear alarm signal is the desire for the other. If one of the two is not satisfied with sex, something is not right at all. However, we must not forget that it is impossible to establish quantities to determine when sex is enough, when the other is pleased, because it varies depending on each person.
No less true is that there are peaks and potholes in which we have a greater or lesser amount of sexual activity. But beware! If your routine doesn’t even contemplate intimate relationships anymore, it’s time to ask yourself what’s going wrong.
It is a sick situation to spend days atoning for the other. If they have lost mutual trust and do not trust what they say and do, it is a clear sign that they must end.
7. CHANGES IN TASTE FOR THE OTHER
Did you love the way he dressed but not anymore? Don’t you laugh anymore at her bad jokes? Don’t you accept it like before? If some time ago his defects and virtues did not bother you and now you want to change him completely, it is an obvious red light that indicates that you have nothing to do together.
8. YOU PREFER TO SPEND TIME WITH YOUR FRIENDS
If you started spending more time with your friends than with your partner or went from seeing each other every day to seeing each other only once a week, it is a clear indication that you are no longer interested or not as interested as before. You can’t be in a relationship with a person you don’t see.
Apart from all these signs, the most important thing is that we be sensible and ask ourselves what we really want. It is not healthy to settle for a relationship that does not make us happy. And if we are afraid of being alone, we should remember that singleness also has its advantages.
Taken from Ohlala Magazine