When we talk about cold people we refer to subjects whose Personality is distant and with which we may have problems dealing.
When we meet such people, we may feel blocked and not know how to act. In the eyes of others, these people They seem to have no feelings or emotions.
It is common to describe them as people with the heart of stone or who are not bothered by anything or anyone. There are a wide variety of adjectives to define these people. Terms with which We judge without understanding really why are they like that.
Characteristics of emotionally distant people
Cold people often put distance between themselves and other people. They may appear to be uncaring or indifferent when it comes to other people's problems. But in reality, this is a product of a emotional barrier that they build to prevent others from accessing their feelings.
Emotionally distant people have difficulty creating or maintaining spaces of emotional intimacy with others. There are some who may suffer from a certain lack of empathy or compassion. They may even become very critical or isolate themselves from others to avoid dealing with problems arising from interpersonal relationships.
Just because a person is emotionally distant doesn't mean they are an introvert. It should be made clear that someone with An introverted personality takes longer to show their personality or opening up to others, but does not seek to distance himself from people. He simply has a harder time expressing himself and showing how he is than an extrovert.
On the other hand, cold people do decide to distance themselves emotionally from the first moment they meet someone. If your emotional coldness prevents you from developing healthy relationships, perhaps it is time to put yourself in the hands of an online psychologist.
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Why are cold people like this?
The reason or one of the reasons why these people develop this type of personality is related to their primary links from childhood.
A cold person not born emotionally distant. It may be due to a lack of affection from their parents or siblings when they were young, or to the fact that they went through a traumatic experience during their early years of life, such as the death of a loved one with whom they had a strong bond.
Behind the coldness often lies a deep fear of being vulnerable. With understanding and affection, we can melt even the coldest ice and discover the warmth that lies within.
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These events generate in the child a feeling of frustrationThey feel abandoned by the person they loved so much or considered a fundamental pillar in their lives. In this way, they decide to close themselves off so that they will never be hurt again.
They believe that by creating a barrier they will not allow anyone to find their feelings and they do not allow themselves to open up to others. This is why, throughout our lives, we meet adults who They don't know communicate what is happening to them or how they feel. It is an act of self protection.
Factors such as stress, distrust or self-doubts of the person can cause him to become cold.
How to deal with a cold and distant person?
- Don't think he has a problem with youCold people do not behave in a distant manner especially towards you or because they have a problem with you. In fact, even though they often like people, they continue to maintain their role of being distant because they have accepted it as something normal in their social relationships.
- Keep the context in mind. Context is always important from a psychological point of view. You have to keep in mind that a person can behave in a more or less friendly way depending on the situation. In addition to the expectations that they have placed on that social interaction. In other words, it is not the same to be at a party than on the street when you are in a hurry.
- Find the way the person creates bonds. Just because someone is cold or distant doesn't mean you can't bond with them. Often, through conversations and observation, you can get to know the person. This way, you'll learn how to act around them and how they feel in different situations.
- Take advantage of the moments when they intervene. These are usually people who don't participate much in conversations. Therefore, you should take advantage of these moments to work with the information they offer. Don't act as if they haven't said anything and complete their statements.
- Don't criticize the person for his cold temperament. Accept her as she is once she has shown that she has no problem with anyone in the group. If you comment on her distant personality, you will make her uncomfortable. Let her see that she can be comfortable with you so that she tries to show greater closeness. In this way, she will have a good memory of the conversation.
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