Everyone assumes that if there is infidelity in a couple, it is because the members are not happy… Is it that simple? This is what those who know say…
A psychologist friend who does couples therapy told me the case of a patient (without revealing her identity, of course) who came to him very angry because she discovered that her husband was having an affair and she did not understand the reason, yes they never fought and the relationship was perfect in every aspect: from the sexual to the human. “Why did he do this to ME?” she asked herself angrily.
I immediately thought that the woman was right, her husband must be unhappy in his marriage and she didn’t know it. The therapist surprised me by interrupting me with «not necessarily.» He explained to me that he had spoken with her husband and that he had indeed confirmed that they were a very happy couple, that he had no complaints about his wife, that -simply- had fallen in love with another person.
“So you stopped loving your wife?” I asked. «No, her love for her is intact, he doesn’t want to leave her because he is in love with both of them“, he replied, adding “it is very innocent to think that you have something called ‘love’ in you and that you pass it from person to person as if it were liquid in a glass, no, human beings develop complex relationships between us, beyond of the labels of “husbands” or “lovers”.
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The truth is that as a result of that infidelity, a relationship that was happy is now in crisis, fortunately in the hands of a specialist, so infidelity is not something to be trifled with, but it is also not necessarily a sign that one is not happy in a relationship.
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What do you think? Is infidelity always a symptom that we do not have a happy relationship? Write what you think in the comments of this note.
Consultancy: Doctor André Didyme-Dome, psychologist at the Javeriana University