Many couples place too much importance on that moment of intimacy and connection that makes them feel so good. But what happens when you don't feel desired? One of the most common crises in relationships is the one that results from the loss of passion. This doesn't mean that your relationship is broken. Don't panic!
Steps to recover my partner's desire
- If you feel like your partner doesn't want you, what you shouldn't do is keep quiet and fight that feeling of frustration alone. You and your partner may not understand each other in bed. Explain to him or her how you feel, what your desires are, and how you feel about yourself. sexual tastes and, of course, ask about yours too.
- It's okay to express yourself, but you have to let the other person speak. It's important for your partner to express his or her feelings too, because he or she may be facing some difficult situations. complicated situation that causes this lack of desire: A family problem, stress, a dismissal, drunkenness…
- It is possible that your partner is facing other sexual obstacles. There are many people who suffer physiological problems or other frustrations such as vaginal dryness, vaginismus, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. These are cases that are usually embarrassing, but the best way to overcome them is to treat them with authentic naturalness.
- Don't be afraid of complexes! Not feeling comfortable with your body causes insecurity and it is normal for your partner to feel uncomfortable when having sex.
- Keep in mind the hormonal changesWomen experience hormonal changes that decrease sexual desire, such as during menstruation, menopause, and pregnancy.
- Give him time. This is not the time to pressure or criticize. In fact, if your partner feels pressured, what you will achieve is that he will still not feel like having sex.
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Practical tips to get the desire back
- Stimulate your partner. There's no need to have sex just for the sake of it. You can try different types of stimulation that both of you enjoy and there's no need to have sex afterwards. Forget that mistaken belief that sex involves penetration.
- Let your partner take the leaddon't always do it.
- Routine is boring. It's something we all know. After being with your partner for many years, it's normal to create routines and forget how exciting experimentation is. Some tips that can help you are: having dates like at the beginning of the relationship to recover the lost magic, practicing other positions and even incorporating sex toys.
- Fix your relationship problemsThe sexual plane is affected if there are many arguments, jealousy or infidelity.
Keep in mind that everyone feelings and emotions wear down over time. That is why it is essential demystify that eternal passion that sell all those series and movies that we see daily on television.
If you look back, your relationship at the beginning was not like it is now and, although have less sex with your partnerthe most important thing is not to lose communication, well-being and common development. Having sex is not synonymous with happiness.
In the case of physiological problems, it is best to go to a doctor and, in the case of psychological problemsthe right thing to do is to go to a professional who can help you talk, such as psychologists and sexologists. A good option is couples therapy.
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