Answering this question seems simple, but it is true that Knowing if you are in love is not as easy as it seems. It depends on the person, there are people who are clear about it when they are in love and others are not. Being in love is feeling attracted to someone and wanting to be with that person above all else.
Sharing our most private thoughts and feelings with that person makes us feel that we have connected with someone. This sensation produces pleasure and causes the chemistry of our body to change since endorphins are produced or better known as happiness hormones, something that makes us feel very happy when we are with that person.
Being in love is about seeing our partner as perfect, flawless. That's the difference between being infatuated and being in love. Falling in love is a passing statethat is, it does not last forever. After that state, love appears. which is a more serene feeling, not as exciting, but beautiful. It is the physical and chemical stability of our body after the previous infatuation.
How to know if we are in love is a question that we have probably asked ourselves at some point in our lives. Some signs may be waking up with the need to be with that person. and go to bed thinking about her, see no flaws in it, feel agitated and not concentrating for thinking about her, etc.
Being frankly in love makes our brain play tricks on us since alters our behavior and perception. We don't want to say that this is bad, but luckily this state does not last forever, If it were permanent we would go crazy.
Signs to know if I'm in love
Love produces in us some effects that can be grouped into different categories: cognitive, physiological, emotional, and behavioral signals. All of them are typical in both men and women.
You're probably still thinking: «Okay, but how do I know that I'm in love?» Well, the answer is that You can't know 100%, but there are signs that can show that you are going through that stage of falling in love.
Your body goes on alert every time you see that person.
This sign is very typical and usually appears when you're starting to fall in love And so you meet up with that person, we're talking about those nerves that we've all felt at some point. They appear when you don't know the other person completely and that's why they disappear over time.
It is true that You can also fall in love with someone you've known for a long time. because he was a friend of yours, therefore, You don't experience that alertbut that doesn't mean there's no love.
You look for moments to be together
It occurs in both sexes, but in women there is a stigma related to gender roles that makes many of them feel uncomfortable when it comes to being more direct than men. For this reason, It is common for women to create opportunities to indirectly approach the person they are interested in.
When you think about the future, you count on that person
If when that person is not there and occupies your thoughts, it is a sign that you are in love because you can't stop thinking about her. This is often reflected when thinking about future plans, You fantasize about the typical solid and happy couplebut next to that person.
“When you meet someone who is good for you, they won’t fill you with insecurities by focusing on your flaws. They will fill you with inspiration, because they will focus on the best part of you.”
Colleen Hoover, All Your Perfects
This imagination appears in people who are in love spontaneously, without prior meditation. In the hours of free time when you are doing nothing or even while you are doing something that is part of your routine and bores you because you don't need to pay attention, it appears.
You are very worried that he may suffer or that something may happen to him.
Despite what it may seem, love is not all rosy and that is why hope and positive thoughts about the future are not always present. There may be concern that something bad might happen to the other person.especially if it's something negative that we know can happen.
For example, If that person has an exam and is nervous and feels unwell because of that, we will most likely feel bad for him. Something that wouldn't happen to us with other people, even if we care a lot about them.
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You have long conversations with that person and you love it.
When we are going to meet someone for the first time, it is normal that at first it is difficult to start a conversation because you will be nervous, but As soon as the first few minutes pass, the conversation begins to flow effortlessly.
If it is true that This doesn't only happen when you're in love.even when we simply like someone. The only exception to this is when the other person is not at all interested in getting in touch with us, or when physical or psychological alterations come into play that affect the ability to communicate with people in general.
You can trust that person
This is another of the signs. When there is already a strong emotional bond, It goes beyond hiding all our defects (something that is usually done to try to make the other person fall in love with you) to begin to value honesty and being faithful.
You know you're in love when you see that person as your best friend.your greatest confidant and the person you are going to tell something to and you know very well that they are not going to judge you, and of course, they see you the same way.
Using our free time to be with that person
When someone enchants us and we are in love, The normal thing is that we look for all the free time we have to be with that person. However, when love is true, doing that seems right to us.
If it is true that In solid relationships, each member needs their space. and free time, which is why it is more common for them to want to be alone sometimes.
You feel panic at the thought that one day your paths will separate
You are so comfortable with that person that The thought that you are not right for each other or that things will go wrong creates immense sadness in you. You feel safe when you are with her and even though you know that you could live perfectly without that person, you don't want to.
It is therefore clear that love cannot be reduced to a precise formula or a set of fixed rules. Instead, it is a mystery that is revealed individually, in each “in love” mind. The signs that indicate that you are in love may vary from one person to another, but we can conclude that they share a common denominator: the deep emotional connection and desire to be close to someone who makes us feel complete.
So, if you find yourself lost in a world of butterflies in your stomach, meaningful glances, and nervous laughter, don't be afraid to embrace these signs and allow yourself to love and be loved.
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