I need to cry, but I can't – Online Psychologists

The inability to cry is not synonymous with coldness, but rather responds to a psychological block that may hide behind it a complex emotional background.

Why can't I cry? Many people are unable to vent their emotions through tears. Crying and crying are a physiological relief which allows you to release tension and stress, however, it is not accessible to everyone.

Not all people are the same, nor do they handle problems in the same way. Each person processes reality in his or her own way, in which reaction times are different. Therefore, the way of channeling emotions is different.

This means that more sensitive people tend to easily resort to I cry as a relief mechanismwhile others take longer to experience this relief through tears. In fact, there are people who often tell us in therapy that they cry for no apparent reason, although in reality there is usually a reason.

Crying is not an easy action for many people, because they need self-recognition, knowing how to identify the emotions they keep inside, knowing how to listen to themselvesetc. However, with relaxation and awareness of the situation, the tears eventually come.

Mainly, the inability to cry is due to an emotional blockage, which occurs when you have many accumulated emotions.

For our own survival, our mind considers that it is better numb our bodywhich is where our emotions live, making us disconnect from it so as not to feel them.

For this reason, certain people and sometimes maintain a disconnection from their emotions and their mind. So what is sought is reconnect so that the unblocking and relief can eventually occur.

The first recommendation that Fabiola Cuevas offers from her own experience is consciously feel the blockageIt may seem paradoxical, but if you close your eyes and bring the tension to your body, you begin to feel that blockage, discomfort and uneasiness, which will help you reconnect with your body.

The second tip that Fabiola Cuevas recommends is speak out loud. It is a step that may seem very simple, but speaking freely about the reasons that worry you, disturb you, sadden you, etc. will help connect with these emotions. Take your time during this practice. Close your eyes, if necessary, and observe how The blockage requires a release, usually through crying.

You can do this step with someone you trust, with a specialist who will listen and understand the situation, or even in front of a mirror. Regardless of the situation you choose, it has to be someone who encourage active listening. Yes, even if you do it to yourself in front of the mirror. It is It is necessary to understand the reasons for connecting with emotions and, thus, let off steam.

Another tip to trigger emotional release is watch sad movies that make you cry. It is an act effective, as well as simpleIf the above tips haven't worked, think about that movie that made you cry and watch it again.

Watching an emotional movie helps you connect with a feeling of sadness that triggers the desire to cryIf this happens, pause the video and take your time so you can calmly relieve yourself.

Fabiola points out that it is very important cry without the emotional drama in which negative thoughts are stirred, but rather consciously crying so that physical and mental tension is released.

Beyond venting through crying, it should be noted that there are people who are unable to achieve this due to a autoimmune disease.

Those who suffer from it do not try to repress their feelings, but due to a problem of physiological origin – dryness in the tear duct– it is almost impossible for them to filter out their tears. This reality is known as Sjögren's syndrome.

No matter how painful the emotions are, remember that We are all capable of overcoming them. Many times we are afraid of feeling afraid or remembering what hurt us, but it is more appropriate to cry consciously and allow the pain to vent, rather than accumulating it over time.

Recovery is done through reconnection with your body and your emotions, so you have to allow feel the block, express the feelings and create the space and opportunity to cry quietly.

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