The simple act of being courteous can improve your life. You can have better relationships, inspire respect and increase your self-esteem. On the other hand, being rude can make life much more difficult.
The behavior comes from childhood, the training in which emphasis was placed on education and appropriate habits or not, where the importance of being courteous was or was not important within the family nucleus. The following are characteristics of educated people that it is never too late to improve or develop.
1. They are great listeners
Polite people always seem to have excellent active listening skills, that is, the act of concentrating, understanding, responding and fully remembering what the other person says. Active listeners resist the urge to talk about someone; They allow people to finish expressing themselves before giving their opinion.
To improve your active listening skills, give the speaker your full attention. If it strays, refocus. Show your interest through eye contact and positive body language. Provide appropriate feedback by reflecting on and paraphrasing the speaker’s words, and most importantly, don’t interrupt unless absolutely necessary.
2. They offer a smile
When a person smiles at you, chances are you will respond with a smile as well. Smiling is a way of saying hello and in addition to doing it for education, it turns out that it is something (literally) contagious.
3. They don’t get involved in the drama.
Polite people don’t waste their time or energy on drama. They are mature enough to know that the drama is not only meaningless (regardless of the form), but also is probably harmful to someone. It’s best to think «I don’t want to be a part of this» and not get involved.
4. They don’t complain (not all the time)
Granted, there is a time and a place to complain, but there are complainers and complainers. The first is used as a conversation tool to express themselves regarding some disagreement or discomfort; the second is a type of person who takes the first to the extreme, constantly complaining about every little inconvenience and, worst of all, without doing anything to solve all that bothers him, so his complaints usually revolve around the same thing. time.
Instead of complaining about something, write a list of three things you are thankful for; she always carry it with you. When the urge to complain about something arises (and it will), read your list.
5. They think before they speak
Adults have the ability, indeed the obligation, to think before they speak. Not following these simple tips has led to many arguments, broken hearts, and damaged relationships. Educated people think before they speak at all times.
Some recommendations to become a more thoughtful conversationalist:
- Don’t feel pressured to say anything, ever.
- If you need more time to respond, that’s fine, just say so.
- When you find yourself about to say something impulsive, acknowledge it, take a deep breath, and think before you respond.
6. They remember names
If remembering names isn’t your thing, you’ve probably had that embarrassing moment where you greet a person without being able to remember their name. If being seen as polite isn’t motivation enough to file someone’s name, see it as an opportunity to avoid embarrassment. To remember it, you can associate it with an object, a place, another person, etc., something that helps you not to forget.
7. They are not interested in gossip
Gossip is something mature adults shouldn’t do, period. Anyone who despises gossip will tell you that it’s pointless, energy-consuming, annoying, and despicable. Gossip hurts those involved, plus energy and positivity escape.
8. They are not proselytizers
Having beliefs and opinions is fine, but trying to force your beliefs or opinions on someone else is not. educated people they don’t talk about their beliefs and opinions, knowing that such behavior is immature and rude. Educated people don’t proselytize about anything. Never.
9. They respect personal boundaries
Personal space is, for most people, something sacred. In fact, trying to intrude on someone’s personal space is often punished with a disgusted look and a forceful «Excuse me?!». Violating the personal space of a polite person can result in a subtle step in the opposite direction. Not everyone is comfortable with physical contact, so respect that the other person does not shake your hand or avoid receiving your hug.
10. They treat others as equals.
Polite people treat others with respect and as equals. This is seen mainly with those who have managerial positions in companies and approach and care about the members of their team, but it must happen at all social levels, this must not be left only to businessmen.
11. They do not judge others
The reason for this is quite simple: they don’t know each other’s history. Judging someone is the epitome of ignorance, not to mention rudeness.. When you judge, there is something about you (not someone else) with which you are deeply unhappy. It’s up to you to find out what that «something» is and stop misjudging others.
With information from Power of Positivity