Having a healthy sex life and enjoying it is essential to keep you healthy and happy. For this reason, orgasms have been one of the most important sensations in the human body for centuries, not only because of the incredible sensations they cause physically, but also because of the amount of hormones and positive substances that are released in the body when the climax.
What happens when you have an orgasm?
It is difficult to explain the sensation because there is no comparison with another, since it could be said that no orgasm is identical and there is no other similar sensation.
What happens during an orgasm in women is that the vagina, uterus, and anus (and sometimes other parts of the body such as the hands, feet, and abdomen) rapidly contract three to 15 times. And in case you were wondering, women can ejaculate too. This happens when they release a fluid from the urethra that contains a mixture of whitish fluid from Skene’s periurethral glands, mixed with some urine. And don’t worry, because that urine is very sterile and the liquid usually comes out clear and odorless.
In the case of men, unlike what is commonly seen in movies, they don’t always have an orgasm when they ejaculate.
Orgasms can be small or large, intense or light. And that only depends on how excited you are while having sex. There will be times when even if you try you can’t get there, and that’s not bad either, but if you’ve always dealt with the same thing and it’s no longer pleasurable or you’ve never been able to have an orgasm, this is what you should try, keeping in mind that the game prior to penetration is extremely important.
vaginal orgasm
Many women believe that this type of orgasm is the only one that exists and therefore is «better», and for this reason they often do not explore other options. Even movies and books have been in charge of making people think that with simple penetration a woman should already reach the climax, which causes them to believe that if they do not achieve it, it is because something is wrong with them. What these women don’t know is that this type of orgasm is the most difficult to achieve.
If you want to give it a try and even see if you experience female ejaculation, you can try your fingers, your partner’s fingers, or a sex toy first. With your fingers it is easier, because if you make a movement as if you wanted to attract something towards you, with delicacy and care, you could get it.
It is also important to know that there is a pleasure point on this wall, called the G-spot, and that when you touch it with strong and regular pressure it can lead to ejaculation, since the Skene glands on both sides of the urethra are stimulated.
clit orgasm
The clitoris is a small organ with many nerve endings that protrudes from the tip of the vulva and extends to the inside of the labia. The best way to stimulate the clitoris is when you gently rub it with your fingers (previously lubricated) or with your tongue in circular movements.
Once the clitoris starts to get wet, or after adding lubricant (because not all vaginas can get wet on their own), apply faster and stronger pressure with repetitive movements until you reach orgasm, you will see how little by little in your body temperature rises.
The climax will make strong sensations take over your body, and if you want to know the best part, it is that the clitoris causes multiple orgasms.
anal orgasm
Anal orgasms are much more common in men due to the prostate, but they can also be achieved by gently massaging the outside of the anal opening or by stimulating the inside of the anus with a finger.
Something that is extremely important for you to understand is that the anus does not lubricate, so it is necessary to use saliva or some lubricant to be able to do it without hurting yourself or the person on whom you apply it.
Maintain clear communication with your partner
Communication is very important during sexual intercourse, to find out what your partner and you like and what you don’t. If you feel like or, on the contrary, afraid to experience some kind of orgasm, just say it so that your partner understands it and the sexual act is pleasant and comfortable for both of you.
And if you also feel ready to enter into new experiences, putting taboos aside can help you release that animal spirit that lives inside of you.