Many couples find themselves unhappy or empty in their relationship, as physical ties can fade over time.as life responsibilities and routine are established, even for those couples whose initial union felt very deep and passionate.
The search for a more spiritual life is usually driven by the desire to unify with something greater than ourselves and to experience the connection and love essential to our being. Nurturing the desire for peace, meaning, and purpose is also essential for those seeking to connect with their spiritual side.
Spiritual practices can range from prayer to meditation, from yoga to community service, from personal transformation to belief in reincarnation.
Some feel spiritual through art, music, or by being in touch with the earth and nature, by living true to their values, or by studying higher spiritual concepts.. Spiritual people sometimes choose a like-minded community, but not across the board, and the practice is generally more individualized, intentional, and experiential.
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What is a spiritual relationship?
A purely romantic, physical, or transactional relationship keeps us living in the limited reality of time, space, and motion, where everything comes to an end at some point. Even if relationships last, it is very common for compliance to prove finite.
When we apply spiritual concepts to our relationship, we tap into the infinite, which opens the doors to a more meaningful bond, one that not only has a greater chance of survival, but allows our relationship to become infinitely more loving and fulfilling.
A spiritual relationship is a bond that a couple builds through the way they live their spiritual values and beliefs and support each other in becoming who they are meant to be.
And although all this may sound a bit deep and complex, in reality, building a more spiritual relationship is simpler and more practical than it seems; but it is a process that requires effort from both members of the couple, in addition to the fact that it is essential to build a healthy relationship in general.
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Steps to build a more spiritual couple relationship
1. Create good relationship habits. Everything you do to help improve the overall quality of your relationship lays the foundation for growing more spiritually connected to your partner. This base arises from good relationship habits; For example, when you act more kind, pay a compliment, be there to meet their needs, forgive, see the good in your partner, approach conflict calmly, show interest in what matters to them, give support and encouragement, show your love and maintain assertive communication. All of these actions add up to create the foundation for a more spiritual relationship.
2. Have meaningful conversations about the relationship. In the interest of building a foundation, try to have a meaningful conversation about your relationship. To do this, find a peaceful environment and a time that works well for both of you. They should do this when both of you are in a neutral frame of mind—not after a fight or emotional trigger—and in the spirit of curiosity and the desire to grow closer. You can ask some of the following questions as a guide, or any other that works for your particular relationship:
– How do you feel in our relationship?
– What is working for you?
– What makes you feel loved by me?
– What do you appreciate about me and about us?
– In what way do you feel happy and fulfilled?
– What are the problems that you think we should address in our relationship?
– Is there anything I can do to make you feel more loved?
– How do you think we communicate?
– How can I make you feel better heard and appreciated?
3. Grow together. This growth-promoting point points to a fundamental element in what makes a relationship more spiritual: helping each other become who each is meant to be. Doing so means caring for our partner’s soul, because we want to commit to investing in their growth to help them reach their highest fulfillment. The growth of a relationship is something extremely valuable, because it makes a connection feel, in which one soul helps the other soul to reveal itself and fulfill itself.
4. Commit to something bigger. Sharing beyond ourselves, especially with those we don’t know, connects us with the energy of the infinite, where satisfaction is quantum and has no limits. We cannot see how far our kindness and sharing spread throughout the world. The energy that couples create together – when they use their union for the sake of sharing with the world – generates perpetuity and never disappears. The idea is to focus part of your time together on finding more and better ways to share with each other and with the world in general.
5. Identify your shared vision and purpose. Having a purpose for being together and a shared vision of what spirituality means to both of you is a significant way to directly build a more spiritual and mindful relationship. It is important that both of you remain open to what the other considers to be your why. To do this, questions such as the following can be asked:
– What do you think is the main purpose or intention of our relationship?
– In what way can we express that in our daily lives together?
– What are your beliefs?
– What are your thoughts about spirituality and religion?
– How would you like to practice whatever spirituality means to you?
– What are some shared practices that we can build together that align with our common beliefs and values?
If you are interested in learning more about the spiritual union with your partner, at Harmonía we recommend you attend the Tantra is Love retreat, offered by Shambalantéa retreat center located in the Yucatecan jungle, in a sacred space, heir to the healing energy resonance bequeathed by the Mayan culture. In this retreat, you will learn the basics of sacred sexuality, the practice of which allows you to get to know your partner on deeper and more conscious levels., beyond the physical, to connect with your essence, your spirit and your heart; In addition, you will learn to connect with your own divine nature, through elements such as energy, breath and presence, to experience new levels of pleasure, intimacy and love. In this link you will find all the information you need and you can also reserve your place.
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What if the couple disagrees on spirituality?
Many couples don’t discover their spirituality until later in life, while many others don’t always align. If you and your partner have differences in your desire for growth and spirituality, and if your beliefs and practices are not aligned, this can be a challenge, but not necessarily a dead end.
Learning to accept the differences of others is a spiritual practice in itself. Therefore, it is recommended that you take the time to reflect, talk and find what you share in common that will help you connect to a deeper and more meaningful meaning.
Growing and evolving as a person doesn’t necessarily have to be categorized as a spiritual practice, and staying away from that concept may make it more accessible for some. If either of you doesn’t like the term “spirituality”, you can focus on it as personal development or growth, or link it to the idea of creating a better version of yourself to grow as individuals and as a couple. In the end, the most important thing is that the relationship improves and strengthens and that both manage to grow and fulfill themselves within it.
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