It is said that expecting life and others to treat you well because you think you are a good person is like expecting a wild animal not to attack you because you are vegan.
And it’s true. Many times, disappointments arise because you create too many expectations. You want and expect others to act and react the way you want or how you would in certain situations.
But that doesn’t usually happen. And it doesn’t mean that others are bad or against you. They are just different, they act and react differently from you.
Expectations and their consequent disappointments occur in all areas: in relationships with your partner, with friends, among family members, at work.
in all of them your mind creates ideal scenarios, which involve illusions. For example, hoping that your partner surprises you with an incredible celebration on their anniversary, that your friends or siblings lend you their ears to listen to your problems as you have always done with them, or that your boss recognizes your good performance in the Monthly meeting.
And when in reality things do not happen as you imagined and expected, frustration and disappointment arrive, which are sometimes accompanied by sadness and anger.
The way to avoid these negative emotions is face life without expectations and without idealizing people, situations or relationships.
Do not expect anything from anyone, but always give your bestbecause your effort is what will give you the greatest achievements, and when you act in accordance with your convictions, it is when you obtain the greatest satisfaction.
This has a lot to do with detachment, since it is about stopping placing expectations on the outside and keeping them only in you, who in the end are the architect of your own life and your happiness (or unhappiness).
You are the first person you should believe and trust. If the support, recognition and affection of others arrive, what better, thank it and reciprocate it, but never take it for granted that you will have it. Always keep in mind that no one is forced to meet the expectations of others.
In this sense, you should not live to fulfill what is expected of you either, but to choose what really fills you up and what makes you happy (as long as you do not affect anyone in the process), even if it is not what you want. others would like or expect from you.
So, In addition to not generating expectations, do not allow others to want to control your behavior so that you meet theirs.. The important thing is to be based on self-respect and towards others to accept the differences in thoughts and actions, as well as the decisions and ways of acting of each person. So you can stop waiting and start living in freedom.
It may interest you: Know the 3 types of attachment and learn to free yourself from them