They say that In love there is no ageand although this saying is generally applied to the benefit of men, for some time women have also decided to ignore the difference in years when choosing a partner. Those who decide on this way of life are called «cougar» which refers to one of nature’s great predators, the cougar. It was first given this new meaning in the book “Cougar: A Guide for Older Women Dating Younger Men” by Valerie Gibson.
A «cougar» is that professional woman with a stable and independent life who looks interested in keeping, or who already has by her side, someone who is at least five years younger. There are countless examples, among them are the famous singers Madonna or Jennifer Lopez who have been open with their decision to prefer to have a relationship with men much younger than them.
The reasons why a woman decides to be a «cougar» are varied. On the one hand, there is the desire to feel powerful in the relationship. They also ensure that a man younger than them will have more patience than a person who is contemporary. Another more superficial element is physical attractiveness. Although there are men who improve their appearance with age, the youth of others is more attractive to them.
On the sexual, it is maintained that a woman decides to have someone younger than her in order to take advantage of her little experience, and thus teach them from scratch how to please their partner. In the emotional aspect, she highlights that a woman is a «cougar» to raise her self-esteem, feeling confident and attractive, and that despite the passage of time, she can still fuel feelings of love and passion in other people.
A relationship is two. If we already know the characteristics of a «cougar» we must also point out the reasons for a man to have a relationship with someone older than him. A relationship between an older man and a younger woman is socially accepted, but the opposite case generates curiosity and speculation. The first factor mentioned is the economic factor. The young are paid. A rather superficial reason, which balances between truth and lies.
There is another reason, according to the specialist, Consuelo Hernández, a young man may be disappointed in the immaturity that can set in at certain early stages of lifeso opt for someone who has already passed these stages, being the case of a woman of 30 years or more.
Adriana García is a 42-year-old professional woman and businesswoman who dated a 25-year-old man whom she unexpectedly met at a party. Adriana says that she never imagined this would happen, since she is more than twice her age, but that despite the fact that it was a very short relationship, she assures that he quite enjoyed it but that he would not repeat it.