Love is a wonderful feeling, which does not cease to exist in middle age, but when you are 40 years old or older, falling in love again is a real feat; Since starting a love relationship is not easy. We stop to think that we no longer have the same energy as years ago, the same spirit, and illusions; Above all, there are times when we question our physique.
Sometimes, we are afraid to show ourselves as we are before the loved one, we are afraid of rejection. When someone accepts us with our virtues and defects, we will be before a human being who can fulfill all expectations; the physical is something temporary, what counts is the sensitivity that we carry inside, the sincerity that emotions reflect.
However, it is necessary to recover our spirits by maintaining a positive attitude, but also all our efforts; we must take care of ourselves, lead a healthy life, exercise, trying to improve our appearance, never neglecting personal appearance. This way we will have greater opportunities with the couple, not forgetting that love at first enters through the eyes; later, it tends to take hold with our behavior and those details that distinguish us.
On various occasions we are alone after having turned 40 or more, for different reasons; one of them may be the loss of our partner due to death or simply love ended; They are things that have happened since the world existed, although it happens frequently, it is always difficult for us to believe, when we have to live a situation like that.
Love relationships change with age, this can be for the better. Maturity leaves great experiences in people, those who put it into practice to improve those wrong things; Therefore, when entering a new stage, they use those experiences in order to enjoy true happiness, next to someone who matches that way of being.
Women and men between forty and fifty years old have more security, they know what they want from a relationship; therefore, they know themselves better, therefore, they can easily understand others. On the other hand, there is freedom, allowing romance to be more pleasant, showing a more liberated mind on a sexual level, with a clear identity.
The journalist, writer, with training in sociology and existential psychology, Sergio Sinay, says in his book Love at forty “that we love from a new (unrepeatable) stage of life; we love with the new and the old, with what is already known, with what has just been discovered. At 20 we love from fantasy, if we love at 40 in the same way, that would mean that love did not teach us; a love that is repeated in the same way at 40 as at 20, is not love, it is obsession”.
Falling in love after forty is worth it. The teaching that life has given us is unique; if we assimilate it with the truth, we will be prepared to enjoy that great adventure, feeling completely fulfilled.