How do they steal your energy: Currently in our daily life we can find certain barriers or people who make us have a bad time, these people usually steal our energy just by being close to us
energy thieves:
According to the Dalai Lama, spiritual leader of Tibetan Buddhism, there are a series of elements that can be depleting a person’s vital energy, called energy thieves. These can be other people, situations, or things you do yourself without realizing it.
It is not necessary to practice that faith or become a monk to learn from the Master’s teachings and become aware of these energy thieves in order to identify them and distance themselves from them to avoid the damage they are doing.
1. Avoid toxic people
The Dalai Lama says:
“Let go of people who only come to share complaints, problems, disastrous stories, fear and judgment of others. If someone is looking for a container to throw their garbage, try not to be in your mind. (Dalai Lama)
The first thing to avoid is toxic people. They are the most important energy thieves. It is that person who steals your energy, who is always complaining, who sees everything negative, who criticizes colleagues and friends, who does not value all the good things he has…
It is as if they invaded our living space and suffocated us. When you are with a toxic person you know it because they leave you exhausted. There is a phrase that says: you are the sum of the 5 people with whom you spend the most time.
2. Money worries
Another of the great energy thieves. It seems that everything revolves around money. The Dalai Lama advises us:
«Pay your bills on time. At the same time collect who owes you or choose to let it go, if it is already impossible to collect. Debts do not expire over time, even if the law protects you; be responsible, it is better to make a term of penny by penny, than to lose your precious energy and your word”.
3. Learn to say no
The third piece of advice the Dalai Lama gives us is:
Keep your promises. If you have not complied, ask yourself why you have resistance. You always have the right to change your mind, to apologize, to compensate, to renegotiate and to offer another alternative towards an unfulfilled promise; though not as usual. The easiest way to avoid not doing something you don’t want to do is to say NO from the start.
Another thing that robs us of a lot of energy are those things that we promise to do but that we really do not want to do.
What the Dalai Lama is referring to is that, if you say yes to something, then you can’t be thinking about it, getting angry with yourself for having said yes, or looking for excuses to get out of it. This steals a lot of energy.
4. Do more of what you like
Another piece of advice the Dalai Lama gives us is to learn to delegate:
“Eliminate as much as possible and delegate those tasks that you do not prefer to do and dedicate your time to doing the ones that you do enjoy”
Life is for doing things we like. There are things that we have to do out of obligation, but as far as possible we have to spend time doing things with which we are happy.
5. Rest
The Dalai Lama advises us:
Give yourself permission to rest if you are in a moment that you need it and give yourself permission to act if you are in a moment of opportunity. Nature has rhythms and your life too. Not acting at the right time drains your energy and not stopping when you need to, too.
Knowing how to differentiate when it is necessary to rest and when it is time to act, will allow us to obtain the necessary strength to move forward. Sometimes we are exhausted and not taking the time to stop or, on the contrary, not taking the opportunities when they arise, is also part of the energy thieves.
6. Put order in your life
The outer order greatly affects the inner order. It is said that you can find out what a person’s head is like by opening their wardrobe.
As the Dalai Lama says:
Throw, lift and organize, nothing takes more energy than a messy space full of things from the past that you no longer need.
If things around us are disordered, it will hardly be possible to be balanced. Some of the things that are disorganized may no longer be needed and belong to the past and therefore will need to be removed in order to see into the future.
7. Take care of yourself: health is the most important thing
The seventh piece of advice the Dalai Lama gives us is to take care of ourselves:
Prioritize your health, without your body’s machinery working at its best, you can’t do much.
Eating well, playing sports, resting, sharing with those we like, are some of the measures we must take to take care of our health. It is useless to have a lot of money and be successful if our body is not well.
8. Face toxic situations
As the Dalai Lama says:
Face the toxic situations that you are tolerating, from rescuing a friend or family member, to tolerating negative actions from a partner; and take the necessary action. Resigning yourself to a situation and feeling like you have no control will only drain you.
If we do not face complex situations and only avoid them, we will only be feeding our stress and putting our stability at risk. If it is a toxic person who harms us, we cannot stop taking the necessary actions to remove it just because we do not want to fall into controversy.
9. Accept what you cannot change
In the words of the Dalai Lama:
You accept. It is not resignation, but nothing makes you lose more energy than resisting and fighting against a situation that you cannot change.
Another enemy of emotional stability is not accepting things, since this will only lead us to an apparent balance. There should be no ghosts from the past that over time will end up becoming the worst nightmares.
10. Forgive
The Dalai Lama says:
Forgive, let go of a situation that is causing you pain, you can always choose to let go of the pain of the memory
Holding grudges and not forgiving will prevent you from being able to move on. If we have a good dose of love in our lives, forgiveness will abound. Keeping the heart poisoned will only cause the positive side to diminish little by little and we will become gray and insensitive people.