People often imagine a controlling person to be aggressive, physically violent, or intimidating. But most of the time, people who control and dominate don’t really show such behavior. In fact, they are often gentle, quiet, and subtle in their approach.
They are usually good at hiding their behavior and will one way or another trick you into thinking that since you are too weak to handle things on your own, they are doing you a favor by making decisions on your behalf.
However, these relationships are usually very harmful for both, although they are clearly much more terrible and traumatic for the one who is the object of manipulation.
You can be on the lookout for these 4 subtle signs to know if you have a controlling partner.
they make you feel guilty
Controlling partners are often manipulative and can make you feel guilty even when you haven’t done anything wrong.
If it happens to you that, for example, you have an opinion that contrasts with that of your partner, it will make you feel sorry and trick you into believing that it is you who has the wrong opinion.
They isolate you from your family
The easiest way to dominate and control you is to leave you without close ones. Controlling partners will go to great lengths to distance you from your family and friends, and will brainwash you from being close to or liking your loved ones.
They are couples too jealous
When your partner is jealous you may initially feel loved and flattered.
But once it starts to become unhealthy, scary and obsessive, that’s when there are problems in the relationship and that jealousy is disgusting and has nothing to do with praise.
If you have a controlling partner, they will blame you for being too flirty or supposedly cheating on people, even after the most harmless interactions with other people.
They make you feel unworthy
Manipulative partners will constantly make you feel that you are not enough, that you are worth little.
They will belittle your accomplishments and make you feel stupid, foolish, and unworthy.
ATTENTION:
If you are experiencing intimate partner violence or if you are a witness to it and you consider that you need some type of guidance, you can call the Ministry of Women and Gender Equity on 1455.
This telephone number assures you confidentiality as it is anonymous, free and is open 24 hours a day.
You can also call 149, which is the Carabineros Family Phone.