I don’t know if it has happened to you, but it just happened to me. The first patient of Doctor Méndez’s Office is me, reflecting on the love of convenience.
Love for convenience: Over the weekend, looking at the social networks of some friends, I realized that that girl 10 is engaged and will go to the altar…
And when I say girl 10 it’s because from the rational point of view she had all the characteristics to be the life partner apparently correct. I am going to describe her in a brief review just so that you have an idea and can make a balance with me, each one from her point of view.
He is over 35 years old and surely He is very clear about what he wants or not in his life.has her own company and is very successful in the work she does, economically very stable and independent and, finally, she is a woman who moves like a fish in water in an environment in which I also exist, an aspect in which I’m sure we would have been a great complement.
We met there in 2008 and I fondly remember that she appeared on my birthday in 2009; we were just good friends and chatted occasionally. Then I got married; perhaps it was she who had to observe the spectacle from a distance. Some years passed; my commitment did not transcend and I returned to the streets, as we say, with a bit of air in street comments. Two years ago, some of her friends insisted on why I didn’t take action on the matter and started dating her seriouslyIn fact, one of them did the work of a matchmaker and one Saturday left us scheduled in a movie theater with the hope that it would be our first big date.
Last year we attended with some of my co-workers in a work activity in which she was involved. My colleagues were stunned by her beauty, to which I had never really given more importance and once again I recapitulated in my head all the pros that my girl had. In the end she was like the goddess of Juno. She had everything that I could possibly want in a woman..
At the end of my mental exercise (because I never mentioned it to anyone) I realized why I had never started this story, I remembered that there had never been a kiss, not even a dangerous proximity. Of course, there was the answer, in the first part of my reflection I blamed myself for not giving free rein to my emotions and I complained to my heart for not feeling what I should apparently feel for my girl 10. That day I understood that I should not blame myself , well she might have all the related characteristics, but only one essential ingredient was missing. The ultimate elixir for anything to work in the world is love.
It was transparent to me that I could never feel what I had to emotionally, move, and that without it there would be no future, no mornings or sunsets to lovingly remember by her side. I understood that I made the best decision in this case, which was simply to never do anything that wasn’t real. I don’t know if it has happened to you, but for me it is impossible to take a single transcendental step without that crazy thing called love, as Mercury sang; also, because the weight of everyday life would be unbearable for me without that enchanting concoction that would lighten those gray and dark days that relationships also have.
I remembered a story my mom told me recently. She recently met a very young Colombian woman who went to live in another country with a foreigner for the convenience of an apparently better future. Mom tells me that this woman leads a stormy life, that she has been the victim of insults and humiliations by an international conquest who, whenever she can, reminds her that she is nothing without him. Now this girl has a son with him and she is locked in a world that could have looked ideal from another instance, but when you look at it closely, it can only be an emotional prison. Do you think I did the right thing? Was I real or a complete fool? I don’t know if it has happened to them and they identify with my story.
PS Last week at the Juanes, Bosé and Yatra concert, we saw each other at a certain distance, she greeted me with a slight movement of her head and a cold look, I felt like a complete stranger to her.