The self-esteem It is a great unknown that many people are looking for. This case does not only occur in adults, now parents are showing a lot of concern for their children. What can be done to help children have high self-esteem? How to boost your self-love? Improve your self-confidence and self-assurance?
What is self-esteem?
A healthy self-esteem is the positive attitude towards yourself which translates into more self-love and I respect.
There are many types of people: from those who underestimate themselves and do not accept themselves as they are, to people who are completely the opposite. But do not forget that having high self-esteem or simply healthy self-esteem does not mean being arrogant, selfish or narcissistic.
In the latter case, the person would have a better image of themselves than they really are, accompanied by airs of grandeur and the false belief that they are unstoppable, capable of anything.
The 5 signs of low self-esteem
- The fear. You are constantly afraid and you can't overcome it. Fear is a completely normal emotion, so you don't have to worry about it. You shouldn't feel bad about it because, in fact, it's healthy to feel it. The problem comes when it blocks you and you don't move forward because of it. You have to analyze that fear and find the necessary tools to face it, move forward and not let it limit you. Therefore, you can be afraid, but with healthy self-esteem.
- The image itself. The image you have of yourself influences, because you will believe that you have many more weaknesses that strengthsBut don't feel different, not everything is going to be strengths in our personality. The goal is to be aware of weaknesses and try not to let them hold you back. The more aware you are, the less harm they will do to you. You have to accept who you are and thus, you will avoid letting your weaknesses work against you. You can use your weaknesses as a strength, so you grow as a person, have good self-esteem and really love yourself more.
- The others. Do you feel that you are below others? Does everyone do everything better than you? Do you compare yourself? Do you constantly ask for opinions because you are not able to make decisions? If you are comparisons with the outside world are necessary in your life, it is a big sign of low self-esteem.
- The achievements. We are all capable of achieving our goals. goalsbut it all depends on the value we give to the things we do. Is it normal or not normal? This question causes a lot of self-esteem to be lost. In your day to day life you will have many achievements, even if they are not all that special. There will be more or less of them. Here is your problem. You must recognize and give value to everything you do, even if they have different values. The moment you demand from yourself, you self-sabotage, you do not give value to what you do and you buy into others, you are taking away value from your achievements. Thus, your self-esteem becomes smaller and smaller. If you are asked «what achievements are you most proud of?» you will not know how to answer or you will find very few.
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- Feeling of not deserving something. You feel that you don't deserve compliments, nice words. You feel uncomfortable with compliments. If this happens to you, it's a big sign that you have low self-esteem. Feeling that you deserve nice words, whether from others or said by and for you, is not related to being a narcissist or an egomaniac. It's very important that you are able to say nice words to yourself without feeling ridiculous, because it loads you with positivity and it helps a lot with self-esteem. If you don't mind saying something nice, polite, friendly and pleasant to the people around you, why not do it with yourself?
4 tips to improve your self-esteem
There are several useful concepts to keep in mind in order to boost your self-esteem:
- The self-awareness or the self-knowledge. You need to know who you are. This means, as explained above, knowing yourself deeply, including your weaknesses and strengths.
- The self-acceptanceYou will not be able to move forward if you do not unconditionally accept yourself as you are.
- The empowerment. Once you have accepted yourself, recognize your potential and your weaknesses. Developing your strengths and working on your weaknesses will help you get the most out of yourself.
- The positivityIt all depends on how you respect and value yourself. You must love and appreciate yourself.
Working on our self-esteem daily is very important for develop ourselves as people and, above all, to feel good, since our health excitesIt influences the behaviors that we have and in our relationship and interaction with the around.
When we love ourselves and feel in tune with ourselves, being aware of our strengths and weaknesses, we face the world differently. A positive attitude makes you feel more capable of achieving your goals.
Don't hesitate to go to mental health professionals, such as psychologists, if low self-esteem prevents you from developing your life as you wish.
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