Let’s face it, even couples “perfect” have fights, but there are some things or behaviors that you should not do when you fight with your partner, you could lose it!
This situation can be annoying if it happens frequently, so be careful how you react during an argumentyour relationship would be over in the blink of an eye.
The heat of the momente that we lose our heads, we rarely think about the consequences that come after a fight.
An investigation revealed the change in the behavior of several couples after they argued and focused on four aspects that we are going to share so that relationships last.
Things you should not do when you fight with your partner
The investigator John Gottman has called these 4 toxic behaviors «The four horsemen of the apocalypse» and what we should avoid to have a healthier and happier relationship.
#1. Criticism
Exposing the reasons for our discomfort is not bad, the problem is that when you express yourself your words become critical. As the song says, “everything depends” on what you communicate and how you do it, that’s why and despite the annoyance, always try to be kind, explaining how their behavior makes you feel.
#two. be on the defensive
After many discussions this behavior tends to change and at the slightest provocation our reaction is aggressive, motivating an argument, often pointless.
#3. Contempt
Sometimes, punishing with the whip of contempt can be extreme, we are so offended that we would like to end the relationship at once and when we remember the good things we have experienced we calm down.
However, when you fight with your partner if the first thing you do is remember those bad things then you should rethink if in fact you no longer feel the same love that you had at the beginning of the relationship, in that case it is better to end it.
#4. the silences
Contrary to the first point, here the moments in which nobody says anything weigh, when couples reach this point it is because they have already made a decision, to leave their partner, and it is simple they got tired of arguing and it is easier to ignore the other .
Y you, how do you behave when you fight with your partner? Leave your opinion in the comments.
With information from Soy Carmín