Loving a person implies a deep dedication that many times ends up becoming an attachment. The difference is that when you feel attachment and not love, problems of jealousy, dependency and other feelings begin that are tricks of the mind and that can harm the healthy bond with a person.
This happens very frequently, but that is not why it should be normalized. If you have a romantic relationship with someone, take into account these 10 Osho phrases to learn to love without attachment, and put them into practice. With a vision of respect and independence, you will be able to establish much more lasting and healthy relationships for yourself and other people.
Osho phrases to love without attachment
1. If you love a flower, don’t pick it. Because if you do, it will die and stop being what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.
2. All I know is that to love is to experience the most beautiful space within yourself.
3. Do not think that love has to be permanent, and that will make your life more beautiful because you will know that today you are together and tomorrow maybe not.
4. Love cannot be learned, it cannot be cultivated. Cultivated love is not love. It will not be a real rose, it will be a plastic flower. When you learn something, it means that it came from outside; it is not an internal growth. For your love to be authentic and real, there has to be internal growth.
5. When you don’t have love, you ask the other to give it to you. You are a beggar. And the other is asking you to give it to him or her. Two beggars extending their hands to each other and both hoping that the other has love to give. Naturally, both feel defeated and cheated. This is the paradox: those who fall in love do not have love, that is why they fall in love.
6. People commonly think that hate is the opposite of love. It is absolutely wrong. The opposite of love is fear.
7. Love naturally, just as you breathe. And when you love someone, don’t demand; if not, from the very beginning you will be closing the doors. Don’t have any expectations. If something comes your way, be thankful for it. If nothing comes, there is no need for it to come; you don’t need it.
8. When two mature people are in love, one of the greatest paradoxes of life occurs, one of the most beautiful phenomena: they are together and yet tremendously alone. They are so united that they are almost one. But their union does not destroy their individuality. In fact, it enhances it: they become more individuals. Two mature people in love help each other to be freer.
9. For love to grow, perfection is not necessary. A loving person simply loves; just as a living person simply breathes, eats and sleeps.
10. Love is the only religion, the only god, the only mystery that has to be lived, understood. When you understand love, you understand all the mystics in the world. It’s not difficult at all. It’s as simple as your heart beating, like you breathe. It comes with you. You don’t get it from society.
If you want more tips to be able to love without attachment, continue with 3 tips to practice detachment in your relationships.
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